He has already introduced our children to his girlfriend and her kids behind my back. I do not believe in extramarital affairs, it makes me ill to think he did this. How will the courts rule to his actions? Does it matter in the state of California?
2006-08-21 04:28:35 · 14 answers · asked by RollMyDice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
California is a big farther rights state however if you can give dates and what he did to a good lawyer you may not have a problem.
What matters is how he treats the children and how he treat you in fornt of the children Living with a girlfriend is not sen as all that bad if he plays good daddy.
Go to a lawyer with notes as when and what he is doing Have a reason for the divorce and get full custody. If your children are old enought to talk they may need a lawyer of their own
What the goal is , is not to distrupt the children and cause then to be hurt in any way.
Take your feeling out of the game and protect the children, food clothing and saftey in a place to live. top on the list
So take the drama out of the divorce and start a life you love and the kids love too.
2006-08-21 04:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by aaricka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer right away. If you can't afford to do so try legal aid. Divorce him and make a nice life for yourself and the kids. I have been exactly in those shoes a long time ago. I live in new york so I am not familiar with California's laws. Good Luck..
2006-08-21 11:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by Bazinga 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
California is a community property state; 50/50 split on everything. Check with a lawyer and see if you can get the house until you sell it and have to split the money. Talk to your tax preparer also. If the children are living with you you can file as head of household, take dependency, and get the ctc and eic.
2006-08-21 12:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you had to go through this, but unfortunately it happens A LOT. Nowadays, the courts usually don't pay much attention to infidelity and probably won't even consider it in any custody or divorce issues. At least that was in my personal experience. Just remember to be the bigger person and do not put your kids in the middle of this (aka: bad mouthing their dad). They are going through enough adjusting to this situation without feeling like they have to pick sides. Right now (and evey time, of course) your kids need to be your top priority. I know it hurts, but time does heal if you allow it to.
2006-08-21 11:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, get a good lawyer NOW Do not wait. It's over,ok, time to get a GOOD lawyer. Mine cheaterd on me to, after 32 years, I hurt, but let the lawers fight it out. If you can doctument , with pictues, log on on paper, hide this, I'm from IL. and if he want to screw some on the court steps it doesn't matter, all I want is 50% off everything I do not know how you state works works. sorry try to google it type in your questions, and I wish you luck
2006-08-21 11:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss this with an attorney, But in California, a state that allows alimony as well as child support this will not go well for him. Adultery is still against the law, even though it is rarely prosecuted. He will suffer for is actions in the divorce settlement.
2006-08-21 12:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids dad witch i am still married to but no longer together...Moved in with his girlfriend last night..I'm having the worst time getting over these feeling ...I'm hurting so much and i really don't know where to even start...But we have two kids together and i know that i need to be strong for them..So i need to get a good lawyer and move on and start over with my kids...I know what your going trough and i wish you the best for you and your kids...
2006-08-21 12:39:16 · answer #7 · answered by ?Whiskey Girl? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The court really dont get into those issues. It more about division of property and child custody and support/ Yes, its a bit tacky..
2006-08-21 11:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call some lawyers some states have strict laws about having an affairs it might be in your favor. get a lawyer for your self his new woman will push him so he doesn't lose every thing she wants.
2006-08-21 11:37:34 · answer #9 · answered by ms01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the library and ask about information at the reference desk. I think they will steer you in the right direction to look up any questions you want to know. if this isn't for you to do. see an attorney
2006-08-21 12:49:55 · answer #10 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋