my first love got in touch with me thru the internet 5 mths ago ,have been chattin via email and messenger.Told me he still loves me,and i still love him.But both in relationships.With kids.Has now told me to leave him alone.No real explanation,am absolutely heartbroken.Should I just leave it? He lives away,so cant even bump into him .Am at wits end cos he has really messed with my head.Dont know what to do !!!!!
2006-08-21 04:22:24 · 16 answers · asked by â?¥ RIE â?¥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sadly first loves are exactly that.. email makes it seem simple, fun, reminiscing etc.. but he has said no more, you are both with other people and have kids.. leave it... if he filled a void, look at your present relationship, give that the time and attention it needs, and if it is not working decide what to do, but not on some fantasy that your first love will be waiting with open arms, or make everything alright. sorry this is a tough love answer.
Move on leave well alone.
2006-08-21 04:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by dianafpacker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so weird because I just married my first love, and it is 21 years later. I have 3 children and he had 1 - but his son passed away 3 years ago in a house fire. We married after my house blew away in Katrina. We always maintained some level of contact over the past 15 years - but it was pretty minimal until 3 years ago. We decided to get back together about 5 months before Katrina and try dating - well he proposed in Sept because I was going to have to move across country due to losing my house and he didnt want to lose me again. We just had a baby 3 weeks ago. My kids love him and he loves them... but we are having some issues with his patience towards them since the baby was born. I guess my situation is different than yours, but your question caught my attention because I married the boy I loved for 5 years in High school and my freshman year in college.
Sorry he messed with your head, but if you are both in other relationships, it probably never would have worked anyway. He was probably bored and looking for a little excitement and saw it was going too far and put a stop to it before he actually crossed the line. You need to let it go - its a good thing you dont have to worry about bumping into him!
2006-08-21 04:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is just playing games with you. I think he got in touch to put some excitement into his boring life and, amoral, unscrupulous bastard he is, he is probably enjoying messing with you. Write him a long email were you tell him exactly what you think about his shitty behaviour (don't tell him you love him under any circumstance again in your mail) and block him from your addy, and change your number. You should know better then to jeopardise your relationship and the security of your family for someone you haven't seen for 22 yrs. What you are in love with is that feeling of being 14 again when he talks to you because having not met as adult you will always be 14 to each other. Cut him off.
2006-08-21 04:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave it hun, it wud probly never work. I see my 1st love all the time , we went out a few times since and yes there is something still there, think there always will be but not quite the same. You think its going to be the same as b4 but life has moved on for u both, u will have changed alot. meet someone new chick, theres plenty out there. Goodluck x
2006-08-21 04:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by Irishbird3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dishonest can by no ability be the answer. you acquire your ovaries in an uproar and your thoughts are out of control. You lost the interest for your husband for different causes. try to be lady sufficient to seek out those causes. only because your pal theory it labored for her it would not make it good. What occurs in case you do an analogous element and swiftly, you pregnant. It would not take a lot for the hubby to confirm that out. Take a deep breath and bounce back into your marriage and connect the project. people will recognize you more beneficial, and also you may want to too.
2016-11-05 07:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has asked you to leave him alone then do so!It will be hard but he obviously thinks its for the best so you should try to look at it that way to!!I no its genna be hard but i dont think you have much choice.
Why is that ya first love just never really leaves your head!!?I think its true for a lot of people>It is with me!!
Be strong and try and concentrate on whats best for the kids x
2006-08-21 04:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it . This relationship should have been left in the past. You never forget your first love, but times move on, and you evolve as people. The chances are had you have got together he wouldn't have been the same bloke you dated all those years ago. My advice is just concerntrate on your life today, and leave the past in the past.
2006-08-21 04:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Nicola ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave well alone, you can never go back, and you probably love what you rememeber and you are not 14 anymore (sorry to be blunt). Think if the life you have at the moment and dont look back.
2006-08-21 04:38:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is an A hole. just forget about him. What you said sounds romantic but in reality it will never work as you are both different people now and you are adults. He is probably going through a bad patch with his wife so to make himself feel better he tracked you down then started thinking about old times. he was fantasising. I bet his missus has found out and had a go at him and that is why he has given you the cold shoulder.
He's messed with your mind. get on with your life and forget about that sad git. get a girlfriend of yours to contact his missus and make out she is pregnant with his one night stand. that will teach him.
2006-08-21 04:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by 90210 aka Hummer Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both are in realtionships with kids, you should not be trying to pursue a realtionship with each other, its just not right, and I think the fact that he broke off contact is for the best. Things between you two will never be like they were when you were 14, things change, people change, and considering you both have kids, it would be cruel to them to break off with your spouses.
Good luck!
2006-08-21 04:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by Aimee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋