He also wants oral sex ive been giving it to him but not doing a good job, im usaly very good at it but i cant get into it any suggestions on how to get my sex life back on point remember im pregnant
2006-08-21 04:21:57 · 25 answers · asked by Cassandra S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sex should be something you both enjoy. Talk to your husband and explain how you feel. You are a good trooper if you please him with oral sex that far along. You will get your sex drive back, do not worry about that. In the meantime come to an understanding with him, He has needs so come to a middle ground and he can please you and you can please him. Marriage is about compromise. You don't want him getting his milk any other dairy, take care of him without having to exhaust yourself. Embrace your body, you are beautiful, you are carrying a seed of your love. Love yourself, so he can love you!! Matter over Mind!! Good Luck.
2006-08-21 04:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly,TX 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why some of the people that answered said you shouldn't have sex when pregnant? Of course you can. The problem is wanting to. I have a 4 month old so I know oh to well what you are talking about. Marriage is about give and take. If the oral sex is too much for you right now, and that is understandable, just have intercourse. or get him started orrally but finish w/intercourse. Tell him it is just to uncomfortable right now. he should understand but I would try to give it to him every once and a while. But if you just can't bear to do it anymore after your next doctor appointment just tell him that you have started dialating a little and the doc has put you on pelvic rest and you can't have sex. You will have plenty of time to fool around again in say ayear(or that may be when you feel like it again.) If he loves you he will understand. Your libido will eventually come back, Mine did after both children. Remember you are going through a lot now its okay to feel this way!
2006-08-21 04:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by rye252000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is not insenstive to ask. that's insensitive to no longer take 'no' for an answer, or recommend that she is being unreasonable or depriving you in some way. She's pregnant. meaning she's drained, dealing with speedy hormonal variations, and probable no longer feeling large maximum of the time. And after the infant arrives, she will have the capacity to nevertheless be drained, and overwhelmed with babycare and 'touched out' from breastfeeding 12 cases an afternoon. once you have become it two times each and every week, evaluate your self fortunate. i've got been married for 25 years, and there have been cases in our marriage the place we've had intercourse lots, and different cases while we've had none in any respect ... for each variety of reasons. intercourse is an significant area of marriage ... yet no longer the only area. previous that -- coach her you like her in different techniques. help around the homestead so she'll be extra rested. supply a rub down or a cuddle ... or supply to thrill HER occassionally without looking forward to something in return. And while you're sexy and he or she isn't waiting to oblige -- that is why the forged Lord gave you palms.
2016-12-17 14:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as intercourse goes, if you give it a shot you'll usually end up getting into it. Pregnant women ARE very beautiful, just remember that. Lots of guys think pregnant women are totally sexy, which must be the case with your husband, because he still wants you. That is so flattering....sometimes men just turn their backs on their pregnant wives out of disgust for the way they look. So, you've got a man who appreciates your new figure, try and appreciate that. As far as the oral sex goes, if you're not into it, don't do it. He can wait!
2006-08-21 04:33:18 · answer #4 · answered by qamberq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing! Men just don't understand pregnancy. My best advice and I have to try listening to it myself. If they still want it then they still want you. Just remember pregnant women are sexy! We created life and are beautiful. Plus after the baby comes there won't be any sex for a good 2 months give it to him while you can!
2006-08-21 04:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by volcomgrly23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel sexy... that's one thing. Do you feel like having sex? If so, don't worry about the sexy part and just do it. If you don't feel like having sex... you could either say no... or just lay there and let him do his thing. I really don't think men care much if you're 100% into the mood. They seem to do just fine as long as you're willing.
As for the BJ's... it's pretty hard to get into it when you have to work so hard at it while prego. If he's laying down, it makes the job so much harder. At least have him stand so you don't have to tower over him... holding yourself up with one hand... and using the other to hold your hair or play with him. That's if you can manage to do it without gagging. I know my husband kept bugging me, and bugging me... until I said fine. As soon as I gagged and he saw that I was ready to puke... that changed his mood... and I was off the hook!
Men can be very selfish at times... and never really understand all the changes women go through during pregnancy. I said to myself... if he's going to be so demanding.... then he'll have to deal with my nausea... and the gazillion times I need to stop and go pee. That sometimes ended the war on sex.
So... if you're not in the mood and you don't want to have to turn him down every time... just pretent you are in the mood... and go down on him... and puke on him. Or start having sex... and stop every few minutes for a pee... that'll change his tune!
2006-08-21 04:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by VixenMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good that you have a caring and loving husband who is asking for sex 3-4 times a week. I was having sex twice a day with my wife through out her pregnency and she was enjoying it too. What is wrong with you be a normal woman and think within in your mind within yourself that you are enjoying sex. I am sure you will start enjoying the sex. Do not just have it enjoy it.
2006-08-21 04:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl, my sex life was NON existant while i was pregnant. I wanted nothing to do with sex or giving or receiving oral sex.
Your man needs to understand how you feel and RESPECT it. IF you dont want to give him his oral sex, tell him so. He cant make you!
Good Luck and enjoy your pregnancy!
2006-08-21 04:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is ok during pregnancy, you will start to feel better later on. Talk to your man. Of course you don't feel sexy you gotta little tummy growing. But that all comes with becoming a mommy. I would tell him how you feel.
2006-08-21 04:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by afbutters7777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have an honest conversation with him. You love him, and want to be intimate, but right now your body is going through a lot of changes, and if he's so committed to you he needs to be able to roll with the punches, and not be so overdemanding in the bedroom. At this point in the game, your body and taking care of yourself needs to be your priority - and it should be his too! Good luck!
2006-08-21 04:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by Naomi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋