I have 3 kids all a year apart and my husband and I are having problems. I am putting all I have into making us work but nothing seems to help. Trust me- I do it all. I have a good career where I make plenty of money to support myself and the kids, I do everything I know to do around the house to make our home nice, I'm optimistic, I listen, am in good humor pretty much all the time, I love to have fun--- blah blah. Anyway, pretty much, my question is, if something did happen to my husband and I, do I have a chance of ever being in a marriage or even a serious relationship again?
2006-08-21 04:12:50 · 34 answers · asked by KC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know you wanted an opinion from the men but from my personal experience I would say yes you do have a chance of having a serious relationship.....I also have children...4 ( 3 from my marriage and a newborn with my current fiance')...most people assume that guys won't date women with children because they are a hassle in some cases....my children are now better children now and I am a stronger woman....hey we all need a good man...besides men fall in love with the kids as they are falling in love with us...keep your head up you have it all together.
2006-08-21 04:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Honey Dip 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to find the answers you want here.I can tell you from expierence that there are men out there that love kids and would date or marry a woman with children,I had 2 kids and 2 deceased husbands I met a man 10 years younger than me,I was unsure at first because of the age difference but we have been together for 7 years and now have a child together. Having kids does not mean it is the end of the dating scene for you.so don't worry if you and your husband divorce you will find some one else,to love you and your children.
2006-08-21 05:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly hun. That all depends on the guy meaning your new man should u ever get one. I'm the type where I'd have to think about it first. These questions come to mind. How good of a step dad will I be for her kids? Will I love her and her kids as my own? Would she want more kids of our own? Can I love her with these kids added to our new family? Will her x be jealous or cause problems? etc. There's so much to ask but if it's true love then yes you will love again and find a new man much better then your "lost" husband.
2006-08-21 04:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never wanted kids but when I met a girl when I was 32 years old I fell in love with her. She had two daughters ages 5 an 7 at the time and she was a single mom doing everything by herself.
I absolutely fell in love with those two little girls as well and wanted so badly to be part of all of their lives. Long story short, I am now married to that woman and have raised those girls from then and wouldn't change anything. Those girls are now 19 and 21 and very much still a big part of our lives.
The answer to your question is yes !
2006-08-21 04:24:22 · answer #4 · answered by jarhed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, looking at some of these replies it makes you understand why some people are so lonely! The peole who wouldn't become involved with you because you have children are exactly the people you wouldn't want to be involved with.
I am in a relationship with a woman with two wonderful children - and a few years ago was in pretty much exactly your position. Check my blog on the whole thing at http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog/;_ylt=AqMZKSd4V1vwJjKwG_5r3vjHAOJ3
Sure - when my wife and I seperated I thought I'd never go near another woman of any type!
Your life does move on though, and you will find someone else. You sound a very consientious wife and a wonderful person. Good luck.
2006-08-21 05:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you coul'd have any problem to get back into the dating scene. In fact, your image of a three-kids-mother to men may help to you on a 85% to get a man interested on a serious relationship because he will see your complete family stage from the begining and if he accepts you, he will accepts your kids too. The only thing you really have to worry is about your kids reaction when seeing you with another man instead of their father. Personally I married a wonderful woman with no kids, but in case of having any kids when meeting her, I'd marry her too, because loving "her" means loving everything she does, everything she have, and everything she is.
2006-08-21 04:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by Sol de la Noche 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I seriously doubt it, after reading just what you have wrote. I can read between the lines and I have seen people like you. You may be happy for a short while but you will just get back to the same way you feel now. You need to settle down and get your wayward feelings behind you. Your personal life is just headed towards destruction, to bad you have to take your kids and people that love you with. My advise you is go to counselling and your husband too and if you still aren't willing to change, let your husband raise your kids or give them up to be raised by someone who is more mentally stable. I now this sounds mean I'm sorry about that but your just inches away from destroying life's. You shouldn't be here asking this kind of question it's way to important. You need a professional not a layman. I really do hope everything works out for you and your family. And as far a new marriage and serious relationship, I doubt it but if you do you find yourself telling everybody how wonderful everything is but in your heart you'll know better. People say all the time how much better all is now. But people rarely tell other people how they screwed up and they need to pretend to everybody and themselves that everything is great.
2006-08-21 05:34:48 · answer #7 · answered by Johnnie Z 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Why are you even thinking about this now? Are you in the throws of a divorce? Is your husband going to buy the farm anytime soon??? Seriously, if you can't find a man who will take you and the kids as a package deal then he's a loser. Simple as that. And yes, there are men out there who will become involved with women who have kids....its just having the patience and diligence to wade through all the losers to find him.
2006-08-21 04:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, please don't stay in a relationship because your scared of being alone. Second, how can you expect a relationship to run smoothly when you have 3 kids all a year apart? You both are in very trying times and it will pass if you both are committed and keep the communication open.
2006-08-21 04:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by To Be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did date and marry a woman with a child and we've been married for 7 1/2 years now and are very happy in our relationship. so I think if you find the right guy you'll be fine.
2006-08-21 04:40:21 · answer #10 · answered by 451 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋