It would be easier on the kids if she stayed home & I moved out.
She has no romantic love for me & she thinks a break might help her to reset her feelings. She feels it's all her fault & wants to be the one alone...but admits the kids need their mom.
2006-08-21 04:02:06 · 10 answers · asked by hellsbells 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like she may need some space for awhile... also needs romance in her life.
Before deciding to separate, you could try making sure she gets plenty of time to herself (just-me-time) & then try rekindling that fire... & see what happens.
If it doesn't work, then it sounds like it would be best for you to move out... not just for her sake & the kids, but for your sake as well.
Don't forget & don't let them forget that you're just as important as they are... you have needs, too.
take care & GBU
2006-08-21 04:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it, but if this separation is inevitable, you should be the one to leave. The kids need you, but they will always need their mom more. I don't mean to sound so harsh but that's the reality of it.
I am so sorry this is happening to you. Maybe this will help the two of you get things back on track though. The two of you can start over so to speak. Date again, do the things you haven't done in such a long time.
When my husband moved out, I missed him more than you will ever know. And I'm the one who wanted out. But when he was gone, I realized he was my life and I loved him too much to let our marriage slip away.
I really hope the two of you can get past this rough spot in your life and find again why you got together in the first place.
2006-08-21 08:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you two have this mess, and sorry for the kids....she needs to rethink her position, you need to find out what is going on...and both of you fix it if you can. A separation will probably prove fatal to the relationship, but who knows. I wish you all the best. And yes, you should move out to keep as much stability in the kids lives as possible. See them a lot, spend quality time with them as much as possible. Good luck
2006-08-21 04:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt leave. thats your house your kids. thats so unfair of her to push you into leaving your home and chilren. since its her problem why dosent she go some where else then. and children NEED thier fathers too! just as much as a mother. she is being selfish. marriage isnt always going to be perfect. not everyday are you going to wake up and feel totally in love with your spouse. its a work in progress and it is your right to stay in your home with your children.
2006-08-21 04:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by fawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that happened to you. Some women just dont know what they have. Most of the time a good man gets a bad women and a bad man gets a good women.
2006-08-21 04:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by V C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since there are kids involved and any more either of you make result in hurt and confusion for them; I would suggest counseling first, before anyone moves out.
Good luck.
2006-08-21 04:17:16 · answer #6 · answered by LifesAMystery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of you're staring at this incorrect. fairly than think of approximately how this might consequence your toddlers, emotionally, and what they're going to omit out on (from a family stand factor). You and your husband are the two being egocentric and staring at how the two one in each of you may benefit, and the way you may make your man or woman lives greater helpful. If the two one in each of you have been married devoid of childrens this may be diverse. yet you have youngsters now and the two you and your husband might desire to place them first, no longer yourselves. in case you think of you're the two strapped for funds now, only wait till you cut up up... it extremely is unlikely to get from now on helpful financially speaking. Your husband ought to give up blaming you, it extremely is not your fault your 5 week previous has colic. i will in basic terms think of how exhausted he might desire to be to come back abode from artwork and now might desire to tackle youngsters all night, yet you the two ought to've concept approximately that formerly you had youngsters... you mustn't be asking in case you may get alimony and baby help. Why are not you attempting to maintain your marriage? Do you care approximately your husband in any respect nevertheless? i might advise some form of counseling. in case you or your husband have medical health insurance via artwork, it extremely is going to often conceal family, and marital counseling. i'm no longer judging you or your situation, yet do no longer you think of you and your husband owe it on your toddlers to objective and artwork via this familiar?
2016-12-14 09:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by mays 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try a trial separation. go away for a week then see the kids on the weekends for a while and see how that goes . it will be hard but email me for support.
2006-08-21 04:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by ms01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you think is best for the kiddos. They are the most important thing here.
2006-08-21 04:14:07 · answer #9 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you don't have a choice. Divorce time.
2006-08-21 04:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋