Does he still Love me?

Question

my boyfriend of 2 years has changed so much.. In the start of our relationship he never wanted to leave my side, he stayed here almost everynight. and Now he mostly wants to play poker online, and hang out with his friends. He says that he loves me with all his heart, but with him just being here one night a week and the only time I spend any real time with him is going to the bar's so he can shoot pool. I miss him not being here and he tells me time and time again that he doesn't want anyone eles.. I just think he's tired of me anymore.

Answer 1

He still loves u but i guess he just needs time 4 himself, give him as much space as he wants and with time he will come around.I don't know what 2 say, but when he comes around avoid arguements as much as possible and show him nothing but love.

Answer 2

Maybe he is not tired of you but just tired of the environment in which you spend time together. I mean two years of being in your room everynight, everyday of the week? Calculate how many days that makes.....over 600 days in your room!!

It is good that he goes to the bar with you. That way you could both make friends together and increase your circle of common friends who share the same interests with the two of you. You could even play as a team against other couples.

Your problem is he wants a change and you don't.But trust me this change although not what you wished for is better than he saying he wants to change you for another woman.You can also talk to him so that maybe after a night at the bars he can come over and wish you good night...nothing much just so you can have sweet dreams of him.

Just don't push him to the egde with the "is there someone else" questions.Else he would feel you don't trust him and that will even lead to a break up. When he goes out with the boys just go out with the girls see that way you would not be so bored.

All the very best.

Answer 3

I've heard this situation over and over again as well as been in it.
You have probably grown apart. It's sad I know. And it hurts when you still really love the person, but they are losing interest in you. It seems like guys are like that. I think you need to sit down with him and have a serious talk. Go through the course of your relationship with him, talk about all the good times and bad starting with the very beginning. Talk about how you felt then, and how you feel now. Make sure that you both promise to be honest during this conversation no matter what. Ask him why he doesn't want to spend as much time with you, tell him exactly what you feel is going on. And don't let him interrupt you! Tell him to really think about what you are saying. Ask him where he thinks your relationship is going, and if he is really serious about it. Ask yourself the same questions too and some others too such as, Are you positive you miss the person he is right now--or the person he used to be? If you just met him today, would you still be attracted to him? You have a lot of thinking, talking and deciding to do. Whatever you do, I wish you the very best of luck.

Answer 4

Sounds like the honeymoon is over. It may not be that he has lost that loving feeling, just that he's grown too comfortable and complacent.

At the beginning of any relationship, there is that stage when the other person is all you ever think about. Then, the comfortable stage creeps into your life together. It's easy for one or both ppl to start taking the other for granted. That's when you really see if it's meant to last.

Sounds like he needs a reminder of what you mean to him. Make plans to go do something with your friends and don't drop them just because he calls wanting to spend time with you. I'm not a fan of games, but sometimes it does us guys good to feel a little insecure or jealous. It will also tell you if he really cares.

Answer 5

It does sound as if he's in a rut with your relationship, and unfortunately finding fun elsewhere (online and at the bar). If you want your re4lationship to work, you'll have to put some variety into it to break it out of the rut it is in. Try to think up new things to do together - things that you could both enjoy. Make an effort to be fun around him (remember, you also could be in this rut and be taking him for granted). If, after a few weeks or months, though, you find that his attitude hasn't changed, and you've really tried to inject new life into your relationship, then you'll have to face the fact that it won't ever get better, that this relationship is at a standstill. You'll have to seriously consider moving on. It sounds harsh, but the alternative is waiting to get dumped by him when he finds someone new, Or even worse, finding yourself stuck in this go-nowhere situation for life> Good luck to you!

Answer 6

Time to give him an ultimatum. I know this may sound selfish but if he loves you then proove it. Tell him this: "It's me or the pool or poker and the single life for you again take your pick". Hopefully he chooses you if not move on girl. No sense in being tied down with some one who doesn't even care enough to barely give u the time of day.

Answer 7

He might be. Keep your eyes open and you need to get a life ( not being sarcastic) so that you don't be so wrapped in up in him. Just in case he is drifting away, you will be prepared. It's not the end of the world if he is. Not every relationship is meant to be. Only ONE. Remember that. If the one that doesn't love you the right way he is making room for the new person to come and love you the way you want to.

Answer 8

Well, honestly I believe that sometimes men can be cowards. Their feelings change and they're afraid to hurt your feelings.

He may have noticed that you guys have grown apart and doesn't quite know how to tell you because he DOES care about not hurting you, but he may be waiting for you to do the dirtywork and break up due to the distance he's forcing between you.

Whatever you do, DO NOT get angry and emotional, I would try to calmly discuss the state of the relationship and maybe you can coax him into being honest.

Answer 9

wow that is really sad and i'm sorry but i think that you need to listen to what your heart says and i think personally that if he is ditching you tohang out with friends or to play poker online then he can't be that good of a boyfriend and he should be able to care about you and i think that if you are going out you should spend time together if he is not spending the amount of time you wnat to spend together talk it out and find out what is going on with him then if it continues just break up with him.

Answer 10

I'm sure he still loves you, he just needs sometime to himself, spending time with friends doing other things, he's not bored with you. People being in the relationship they need their own space and own time to do stuff, not just be with the one he or she loves. No one can spend so much time with one person without having to do other things, or hang around with friends.