ok my friend has a boyfriend already but wants to screw his best friend, she won't cause she is the worlds little puppet ( meaning she is real controlable) ( does what mammoy and boyfriend tel her to) anyway....i want to talk to her about being a puppet and that she is never going to find the right guy if she always does what her boyfriend tells he to do.....did i mention that she isn't really into her boyfriend anymore cause he is always in trouble with the cops and always going to jail??.......not to mention i hold the power over her right now with a simple visit to the guy ( his friend) while her boyfriend was in jail this last week. anyway anyone help me how should i tell her.....??
2006-08-21 04:00:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Can't.
You are all playing games with one another and your message is hard to follow and it appears no one is in charge of their own life and your all relish functioning in this misery anyway..
2006-08-29 03:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a person listen someone else to make her life decision that's mean she has no brain or no self confidants. To spending our time with those kind of people nothing going to happen except troubles for us by many ways. But if you say she is your best friend it's hard to watch throwing her life in garbage. Anyway she must need to realize that she is being a puppet. If she don't feel that way what can you do? And another question how do you sure the guy you introduce her will be a nice to her? Men always dogs. Don't get in any trouble. It will be more trouble when you match make to some one else go wrong more than you choose your own.
2006-08-29 10:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by mswathi1025 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should have nothing to do with the boyfriend OR the best friend. If he's always in jail and in trouble, who's to say there's not something similarly as unappealing about the friend.
She needs to get a backbone and stop letting you, her mother, her bum of a boyfriend "hold the power" over her. She needs to find new friends.
2006-08-29 10:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is bad 2 be a puppet u need to talk 2 ur friend before she can get realy hert my moms friend was like that she ended up marrieing a guy that she didnt want inything to do with and she got hurt so maybe u and ur friend should talk and tell her how u would handel this if u were in her pasion she might think that u r just being a know it all or not but it could save her life . so sit down and tell her pravitley or in public it depends how ur friend is
2006-08-29 10:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by Galaxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah!! Be upfront about this... and also... If you were a good friend, you would not be "holding the power" over her cause thats just not right. Tell her to be her own person and not be such a follower, maybe if she realizes she is NOT in control of her own life, she will change.
2006-08-21 11:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she has to dump her current boyfriend. Also, do something with her to get her self esteam up. try karate or something like gun shooting. She does need to start thinking and doing for herself. She seems to know what she wants, I think she just doesn't want to get in trouble or get someone mad at her. She needs to realize that no matter what she does, not everybody will be happy with it. She should go out with his best friend.
Good Luck!
2006-08-21 11:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds 2 me like u are tryin to control her 2.U cant "hold power "over anyone.be a good friend and talk 2 her about letting people control her.tell her to do wats in her heart.maybe she should break up with her boyfriend so she can be free to screw anybody she wants.i dont think havin sex with his bestfriend is such a good idea
2006-08-28 21:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this friend of yours must be a really good friend, or you wouldn't be fretting over her problems. i really think you need to sit down with her and tell her how you feel and that you are and will always be there for her, so it upsets you to see her in the situation she is in. let her know you believe she deserves all that is good out of life and should really find what it is that makes her happy. once she she has gained confidence, she can no longer be swayed by other people.
2006-08-28 00:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by CaramelKidsMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok listen, now i am not a genious when it comes to things like this (trust me) but i think you need to sit her down and tell her what may or WILL happen if she doesn't stop being a "puppet" because honesty is the best policy and right now i think all she needs is honesty.
2006-08-28 21:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by lp073 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line is , she has a very low self-esteem. She wants to please people.
ask her to list down all her strengths / good points about herself ( you will be surprised she may give you none.
then tell her all the good things about her in a positive way. like do not say she is a puppet , but rather tell her she is very considerate , she cares about others. then tell her she must also care about herself , no need to please others at the expense of herself.
2006-08-28 23:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by Blue Shadow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋