Ladies, a question about oral sex.?

Question

This is a serious question, serious answers please. I've been with my wife seven years and she has never done this for me, I've mentioned it a couple times and she said that she has never done that period and seems like she has no interest in doing so. I don't want to make her feel bad, so I never really pressed the issue. Any advice on how I could maybe talk her into it?

Answer 1

What?

Answer 2

Some good friends of ours, married a long time, recently split up, and one of the issues turns out to be that HER idea of wild sex was for her to be on top. Never wanted to give OR receive oral, much less anything more adventurous. I think she felt like all that stuff would make her 'naughty', as if anyone would even know! Too bad, cause she is hot otherwise.

In my own case, oral was always part of the deal, though early on it wasn't with the enthusiam that I get now. We've been married over 25 years, and sex acts she wouldn't even consider when we were first together are now things she loves and wants more of.

So my advice: as your relationship grows, you do need to try new things. She may be more open to them now than she used to be. Also a lot depends on your communication. My wife used to feel that God would frown on certain sex acts between us, but we've come to the conclusion that, if it's just the two of us, and neither feels that they are being hurt physically (unless we WANT to be) or emotionally, then what about that could possibly be dishonoring to God? My way of looking at it is that whatever kind of sex we want to have that involves ONLY the TWO of is STRENGTHENING the marriage, and reduces the chances of either of us being dissatisfied and 'wandering'. That's gotta be good in God's eye. If she's got some hangup about oral sex that's based on what others might think of her, or on religion, try talking about it and see why she doesn't want to do it.

Also, if she's been reluctant to RECEIVE oral sex, try it out again with her, a little at a time, maybe leave her wanting more. And then after she's really getting into it, get into a 69 with you on top, and you might be surprised where your d!ck ends up. When I do that, my wife swallows it whole and groans for more. Whew!

Answer 3

Do you do it for her? I guess you probably do. I didn't want to try it either because i thought it was disgusting and I was afraid because I had no idea what to do down there. She probably felt like after seven years of marriage she had managed to bypass the deed til death do you part.
Now I would suggest that you try to engage her in a conversation about it and see what she is thinking and why she hasn't and doesn't want to.
I think if you could start out slowly, maybe watch a video or two, and just have her first familiarize herself with the region, then maybe put her mouth around or on it briefly and just work together until you are both comfortable with it.

Answer 4

At the end of the question you said " how could i talk her into it" well my answer is you shouldn't talk her into anything. If your wife doesn't want to do it, that is her choice, from my experience oral sex on a man isn't always the nicest thing to do i don't enjoy it at all. So maybe your wife doesn't like the idea full stop. If you have been married 7 years u shud talk about it and sort ur problem out

Answer 5

Try talking to her in a safe enviroment,, not in the bedroom so she doesn't feel pressure to do it right now. Just be honest with her,, that you understand she might be nervous but you will talk her through it,, and that you can learn together what feels good. Also one big question do you it for her?
you can also try to get a sex book for couples and talk about some "new" things you can try and be willing to try something new for her too so you aren't trying to point fingers at how she's not pleasing you. Just it's something you would like to try?

Answer 6

Well think about it, have you been doing oral on her? If you are and she is enjoying it and feeling all good, tell her when you talk to her that don't you deserve to feel good too? And if she still refuses, I would say take the woman approach to the situation, the silent treatment, no sex or anything til she realizes that you are serious.

Answer 7

Maybe you need to shower better? I know my husband can get kinda rank, and the stink sticks pretty bad. Use an antibacterial soap and suds it up and make it real clean smelling. You can also try a flavored oil to make it taste better for her. I personally like fruit by the foot roll-ups. Once they get a little saliva on them, you really need to work at sucking it off. Yummy.

If she is disgusted by it, you are out of luck and skill. I will never put my tounge on a particular place on my man! (rimmers are gross!)

Answer 8

Maybe you should try giving to receive. Or try a 69 so it's simultaneous. That's always fun. Or just ask her why she has a problem with it. Maybe it's a religious or moral thing. If that's the case, then you need to respect that, and learn other ways of gratification.

Answer 9

To be honest, this is a take it or leave thing. Either the woman enjoys this or she doesn't. There really is no in between. It's sort of an aquired thing. If she has no interest, then so be it. You may try watching videos, but if she seriously doesn't like it, it's not going to happen.

Answer 10

It's very simple. Tell her that no oral for you means no oral for her.

And it seems disgusting to everyone who's never done it before. For both genders. But the more you do it, the more you learn to like it. Now I like giving more than I like receiving.

Answer 11

I think that you should be totally honest with her, if she is not fulfilling your needs sexually, chances are that you will one day wander outside the circle that is your relationship. Personally, I think that every woman would try this thing at least once and if she says she never will, then I don't believe that. Just talk to her.