Maybe I'm out of step with everyone else, but I don't give a rat's a** about being idolized for my youthful appearance. I've always put more stock in mental abilities and common sense than looks. My self-esteem doesn't come from others, or from without anywhere. It comes from within by being able to look in my mirror, straight in the eyes, & be proud of who I see.
Questioning myself is easy. My criteria is simple. I ask myself if I've done my best today. Have I done the right thing, even if it was painful....maybe especially then. I ask questions of character & get brutally honest with myself. On the days I accomplish those goals of idealistic nature, then I succeed.
Note though, that even when failure happens, if I have done my best then I must also cut myself some slack.
Look inward before you look outward. You'll find balance, harmony, peace, and no small amount of satisfaction. That will bring beauty to the surface of anyone, no matter their age.
2006-08-21 03:50:06
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answered by Shadow 7
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Be comfortable with who you are as a person. Forget what society tells you. Forget what people will say. Look in the mirror and see you growing old. Oldness has a grace and maturity all of its own. Every wrinkle, every mark shows that you lived your life with all its hardships and good times. The young only has looks to show for life, old age has experience. All I can say is live your best life and forget about whats in or idolised.
2006-08-21 04:13:33
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answered by Anonymous
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Society´s always got some new thing that, if you have, you´re considered to be "in". But the "in" thing is always changin too, its just a matter of years before the next thing becomes "sexy" or "cool". And i know, it puts alota pressure on us to be that way too...but the thing you just gotta remember is, it doesnt matter what others think or say, (especially if the things that they are sayin arent really even their own opinions but those of society)...just as long as your happy with yourself, and you who are. I know this sounds a lil clique..and im sorry that my answer isnt all that original, but its really what i believe...you have to just sorta wait out and maybe even enjoy the fads of the world as they go along. Kinda like watchin a fashion show. And in the meantime, just be yourself and just do the things that make you happy. To me, being your own person, is the most attractive feature a person can have, and no one can take that away. :)
2006-08-21 04:17:04
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answered by Jaded 7
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It can be a struggle sometimes. I'm in my mid-40's but look like I'm in my 30's -- until I take my clothes off.
You just have to consider reality. I have a good 40-something body. I wouldn't want to go through all of the indecision and self doubt of my 20's. I find that getting older is liberating. So my breasts aren't as perky as they used to be. But I not as crazed about the insignificant things of my 20's. I'm more confident and emotionally stable as a 40-something than any 20-something.
Now when I look in the mirror I don't think, "Oh, no!" Now I just giggle.
2006-08-21 03:54:27
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answered by mediahoney 6
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Developing a self-love. Treat yourself well, take care of yourself. Get involved in activities that you enjoy. Hang around others that have a good sense of humor, laugh. Keep making goals and friends. We lose out looks, but gain wisdom. Some people think their older years are better, not having to worry about the insanity of youth! Keep looking to good role models for your age group.
2006-08-21 03:54:38
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answered by livelaughlove 2
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Well, I am 48, & not the slim thing I was at 19. But, I am still the person I was, & my friends know that, & I spend time with them a lot. If someone takes the time to get to know me, instead of just snubbing my older looks, they win! I am smart, nice, & a good friend... & oh by the way...sex is still number one with me, & I am young enough to enjoy it & make sure he does too...& I am so much better than I was even 15 years ago!
2006-08-21 03:49:29
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answered by fairly smart 7
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Love yourself because from my understanding of self-esteem starts with an individual loving and respecting him or herself then you will automatically have high S-E because you wouldn`t even in a single day undermine who you are and what other people say about what YOU DO OR ANY OF THAT SORT.
2006-08-21 03:49:34
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answer #7
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answered by Fantasia 3
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By keeping up with yourself, keeping fit by exercising, eatting healthy and not being down because you are turning another year older. Being old is cool too, Why? because you have more experience, been there done that attitudes are considered beneficial in many aspects. You will gain more respect, even when you suprise those that expect you to lose your self in your age.
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2006-08-21 03:46:53
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answered by pretty_lesbiian 3
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Age has nothing to do with self esteem. That's in the person if they act different about it that's there fault.
2006-08-24 07:25:28
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answered by robert d 4
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2016-09-29 12:28:41
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answered by ? 4
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