i am having marital problems but my husband dosent think any thing is wrong . what dod i do now.?

Question

i am by no means a attention hog but i dont think he knows i exist. we have three children . how do i catch his attention again.

Answer 1

Tell him that you are not happy with the amount of attention he gives you. Be straight up! Try and spice things up a bit too. I do mean in the bedroom but I also mean in other ways. Perhaps you might want to do the other ways first. Do things differently then you would normally do them! Change some of your patterns a bit. It could be that he is just so used to the way you are, that you need to bring a few new things into your lives to spark you relationship again! Do something different with your husband. I do think that communication is important but don't get all mad at him. People need to be constantly growing in some way or another to really enjoy life. If things are always the same, boring ya know. If the two of you can learn to grow together, it will be great for you again. Never stop growing!!!!!

Answer 2

Are you a stay-at-home mom? If so, how do you greet him when he comes home? Do you meet him at the door with a litany of complaints about the children/house/bills? Do you start most sentences with "I want/need ...." ? Or so you start with "How was your day? I missed you today." ? Have you tried leaving notes in his car to find on his way to work? Do you call him every now and then during the day to just say hi? Have you tried to arrange for the kids to be watched by someone else so you can arrange time alone with him? Have you tried initiating intimacy with him?
I know all this sounds I'm telling you to focus on him, but sometimes this is needed to bring men out of their own little world. If he is a good attentive father to the children, this is major points in his favor. If he ignores the kids like you think he does you, then you need to talk to a professional person to see what can be done to change this behavior. Most of all, do what is needed to boost your self-esteem and when he sees your new-found confidence, this will get his attention.

Answer 3

maybe you two need a getaway without the kids, try it if that does not work then you should just call it quits, why drag yourself through all of the pain hoping that he will notice you, when there is someone out there who will notice you every day is'nt that what you want? Or is it just a little attention from the father of your children? Put some spark into it, candle lit dinner, no kids of course, just get naked that should get his attention. Sometimes women just have to do the work, and that is how it is, some men just want to work, eat, sleep and ***k, get my drift, so you are the one to work it all out.Or just go on with your life, alone it is all up to you how this will turn out. Good Luck

Answer 4

Stick him with the kids for one evening a week and find yourself a counselor covered by your insurance plan. Not because there's necessarily anything wrong with you, but because odds are the root of your problem is buried underneath a bunch of other questions that neither you nor I would know need to be asked. That's the counselor's job. A really good one will ask you a whole bunch of questions that don't seem to have anything to do with your problem, and then clobber you with an insight that s/he derived from those questions that *is* directly applicable to why you came in today.

Answer 5

the thing is he is tired of looking at this same old women. Not saying that you might not be attractive but its like your getting old to him. So this is what you should do clean the house real good and fix him a hot meal and go get a new hairstyle or better yet get your hair done and by a new outfit and also take a trip to victoria secret or bath and body works and spray it on. he will notice you then.

Answer 6

Ironic, but I have 3 kids too, and been married for 12 years, and the best way you can discuss your problems with him is to do what my wife done a few weeks ago. We stayed up late, watching tv together, kids were asleep, and she just came out with it.......maybe he feels the same, like I did.......but just be open cause if you try to keep things inside, it'll make it worse everyday. I'm lacking my wife's attention, but that's the way she wants it to be, so unfortunately we're divorcing, but we're still gonna be friends. Anyway, good luck!

Answer 7

that's a common problem for people who have been married for some time. you get too complacent, you get too comfortable with the realationship. as a result, things get boring.

maybe you should spice things up. the two of you could talk about it. after all, it takes two to tango you know. you do not have to shoulder all the brainstorming for keeping the marriage alive. get his input, too. make time for each other :)

any kind of relationship needs to be worked on to be able to work. this is especially true for marriage. i hope things work out between you and the hubby :)

Answer 8

Weird. Talk to him and let him know that you want time-just you and him. You need that in all relationships. A relationship takes time to grow just as anything else would. Communication is the best and #1 in priority and importance in a marriage/relationship. Speak your mind to him but in a loving and of course civil way. Good luck!

Answer 9

Just plan an romantic evening for the two of you and give him a night the two of you will benefit from in every way. Just be creative and you will be able to get his attention.

Answer 10

Communication is d key without it u have nothing including LOVE and TRUST. Try to engage in conversation with him more often and then u tell him what is going on. That is d bets i can say, or maybe (do u think he has lost interests in u?) Get more involved in what he likes and c where it goes from there