What's the best way to tell my best friend I think she's hot .......?

Question

Not to mention I'd like to get a lot "closer"...............

Answer 1

I don't know if I'd do it if I were you, unless you are pretty positive she feels the same. It could ruin your friendship. In the end, you have to decide which one is more important to you--the possibility of dating her, or maintaining your friendship. Good luck, either way!

Answer 2

Unless she has given clear messages that she is receptive, you will lose a friend if you pursue this. Be very careful, and I strongly disagree with those who tell you to "just tell her." IF she has strong anti-gay feelings, she will run and you won't find her again. This is a case of wait and see....there will come a time when you find someone who is right for you....and that person will make it known that she is receptive. IF your friend has made NO real moves in that direction, please do not ruin what you have by coming on to her. Very bad idea. And, consider this. IF she is not interested, you can count on everyone that you both know, and then some, will know that you are a lesbian...are you sure you want that at this stage in your life? Good luck

Answer 3

I completely agree with Casey on her answer... don't do it unless you are absolutely sure that either she has the same feelings for you like you do for her; or you are willing to lose her as a friend.

Earlier this year, I told one of my best friends that I had a thing for her, and she seemed totally accepting of it that day (she said she doesn't have a problem with homozexuality/bisexuality)... but ever since then, we haven't talked anymore. I think it's a major shame I lost such an awesome friend, but hey, if she can't handle it, then it's her loss, not mine. But you have to decide whats more important to you, love... or a best friend you can tell everything to & do *virtually* everything with. Either way, I wish you luck.

Answer 4

Just sit down with her and be honest. Tell her that you'd like to be more than friends. Don't overload her though. Even if she may be interested as well, she can still be overwhelmed by you telling her that you already have the flowers for you two's wedding picked out and pull away from you. Also, hope for the best but expect the worst and good luck to ya!

Answer 5

Tell her that you have a deep dark secrete to tell her and noone even suspects or knows, then take her to the park after a couple of drinks in the evening and just tell her that you are bisexual or gay and the reason you know this is because I think your beautiful and I want us to be closer, what is your feelings on that....at least give her the opportunity to let you know her feelings on the matter. then the friendship would not be hurt at all.

Answer 6

Well, I would say that the best thing to do is just be honest with her. Tell her that you are attracted to her and that you would like to pursue a "closer" relationship with her. If she is a true friend she will respect your honesty.

Answer 7

Just plain and simple: "I think you're hot." I've done it with a couple of friends, and even a coworker (striaght) and they just get a big smile on their faces, blush and wonder...

Answer 8

There is not a good way and it is not the right way to be in the first place. If you are a female, then just be friends with other females, nothing more, since that would be sinning. Anything sexual belongs in a marriage (man/woman), not in a friendship.

Answer 9

Out of earshot of anyone else and using pretty much the same words you've used here.

Answer 10

Tell her over a couple of drinks, that seems to work.