Hi. Im 18 years old and i think i may be pregnant. I am engaged to my boyfried who is 19 and we both agree that if i am pregnant that we will keep it. I have good GCSE's and i am trying to find a job now that i have left college. My fiance is on good money so we know that we should be able to afford the upkeep. Here in England the legal age is 16 so im not worried about what people think of the pregnancy. I would just like to hear other people's opinions of what i should do? Thankyou!
2006-08-21 02:37:41 · 23 answers · asked by Sexy Chick 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
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2006-08-21 02:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by parshooter 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd look for a simple job for now, something thats low stress and not physically demanding. That way you can keep it for as long as possible, then after the baby comes you can start focusing on your career of choice... or work from home, whichever you find youself more inclined to do.
I'd also see if you guys can get married now, since you're planning to... if you had a quicker wedding (within the next 4 months) you could probably still wear a normal dress without looking pregnant, (something that might take a much longer time after the baby is born).
Either way, i dont think you should worry about it too much, you and your man seem to have things sorted out well. I'd tell your parents though, so they can get used to the idea and everything. Its not like it wouldnt have happened at some point in you and your husbands lives :)
congrats! youre in for a fun ride!
2006-08-21 02:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never say never get married because everyone is different and there relationship although the first time I got married was age 16 that was a little YOUNG FOR ME! As long as you both are VERY happy together and things are going will then I would say go for it. As far as the baby I think you both made the baby there should be a little responsibility there for you both to take care of it. There is NO child in this world who asked to be brought here. I was a teen mom at 17 that was a little early as well yet, I survived I just had ALOT of growing up to do with my child yet I think I was a EXCELLENT mother. My little girl I never asked for help I done it all on my own because her father left me when she was not even a year. She is 12 now going on 13 and I made the BEST decision in my life to just grow up and take care of what I made! BEST OF LUCK!
2006-08-21 02:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that is wonderful.. congratulations! i was 18 turning 19 when my daughter was born, and i left her father when she was only 3 motnhs... i've since returned to school and am alomst done of it, with aspirations of continuing in my feild of study, and its a very realistic goal for the future.
So my opion is that if you two are happy togeather, and want this baby, then i believe you will do great! it sounds liek you have thoguhgt things through on the financial side of things, i hope you jsut realise that there alot of emotional strain as well as financial strain when a baby is brought into a family. Theres the changes in moods for BOTH mom and dad... and then after the baby is born there is the chance of getting the baby blues (which i had for abotu two weeks)
So my word of advice to the both of you woudl be to include your families as much as possible. if family wants to come help even if it is jsut too cook a meal or do a sink of dishes let them., because the more your able to concentrate on the young one, and keep your selves relaxed in the beginning, the better things will go for you!
and you said that oyu ahve left school.. i understand your decision there, but if you were goign to follow a dream.. don't lose that dream. stay hoem with baby for a year or so, and go right back to it... not only will you feel more satisifed in life for following the dream, but late in life it will be that much easier to provide for the child if you are educated and working..(or even if you jsut ahve the training to fall back on if you run into hard times and find that you need ot return to the work force as well)
in any event.... congratulations, and best of luck!
2006-08-21 02:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by joyfulpriss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably a bit late now, but you haven't even started your life yet, certainly haven't really done anything, and you're settling down to have children. I married at 31, and started a family at 33; and now I'm a little older, I'm thinking I did those things a little early. There's sooooo much more I'd like to have donw, so many more countries I'd like to have visited.
On the bright side though, 19 years from now, you'll get your life back, and when you do, you'll still be young enough to enjoy it. So there is a definite PLUS to having your family early, but unfortunately, you will miss out on so much as a result.
Just one guys opinion .........
2006-08-21 02:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the baby. There is nothing in life that can even touch the love of a child.Babies are never a mistake and there is never a perfect time to have one.I had my first child at 19.I don't remember what was so special about life before him.Hes 16,has a car and is interning as a chef.
2006-08-21 02:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by kelliekareen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two really have your stuff together. The only downfall is that you won't have alot of time together for just you two having a baby so soon, but thats not a good reason not to have the baby. If you start this young, you'll be young when your child/children are adults so you'll have time then...I think you two can make an informed decision as to whether you're ready to be parents or not...good luck!
2006-08-21 02:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by Renee B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are about to enter a whole new world with kids your proioritis change and not only that you can say goodbye to all those nights out you'll still be 0ne of those once in awhile but you'll have to find a baby sitter and some more stuff, but you need to check your options if you both agree to have the baby then have it just know that it's only gonna get harder before it gets any easier good luck to you and you fiance and just hope for the best
2006-08-21 02:47:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've already made up your mind. Seems to me you just wanted to SHARE the news CONGRATS!. I had my son alone at 18 he's now 10.5 we are happy. I never let any-ones thoughts bug me. I worked i lived alone i paid his day care. My life has only gotten better. I now own a home new cars a great job I'm married he has a 8 year old sister I'm 21 weeks pregnant.
2006-08-21 02:55:06 · answer #9 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just go for it. I mean you both sound like you pretty much have it together. I had my son at 17,it was not easy but nothing in life is. It is the hardest but best job a women could have(bieng a mom) I wish you the best,just go with your heart!
2006-08-21 02:45:37 · answer #10 · answered by S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your plan sounds good with the exception of leaving college. It would be hard to finish with a baby but you really should finish.
2006-08-21 02:45:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋