It would amazing no one can not ever get divorce.If any country put a stop to divorce than the country would not be how it is now. Hey marriage is what it is until death. People better start fighting for their ordained marriages & their ordained families. Stop allowing the enermy using divorce to destory the marriages & families God ordained in the first place. God showed all of us what marriage is to be until death by Adam & Eve. God is the ultimate match maker here. The real truth is people only see what they're prepared to see , and like they said , you reap what you sow. Life is not consequences. LIFE IS DECISIONS !!!
2006-08-21 02:31:58 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The problem I see all too often is that couples tell me that "I just dont love him/her anymore." Well, i have news for you, Marriage is not about love. I know this may shock many people, but is just not about love. people fall in and out of love everyday. Marriage is a commitment - bottom line; for better or worse. When we marry, we make a commitment to stick by our mate through thick and thin. if our mate screws up and makes mistakes, forgive them, work it out and maintain your commitment. If you feel that you dont love them anymore, then you have to work that much harder to refresh the marriage and develop new ways of sharing each other. We live in what I call a "Fast Food Society". (I want what I want and I want it now) the problem is, marriage is not fast food. it takes years of cultivation and nurturing.
A Happy marriage is not a destination - It is a journey.
2006-08-21 02:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by Shamus 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a very philosophical question, but my thoughts are that decisions and consequences go hand in hand. Marriage, much like religion, is not what it used to be. Before people stayed married through good times and bad (beatings, abuse, affairs) because they did not have the options they do today. I believe that divorce has it's place, but is taken advantage of.
Much like if someone is pro choice, does that mean they believe abortion is right for casual birth control, not necessarily. A woman (or a man, to be fair) should be able to remove themselves from a marriage if they are being abused or cheated on, but not just because they got bored or jumped in to it too quickly.
To answer the question, if divorce was not allowed I think you would see a large drop in marriage rate. The average marriage age would increase significantly, because lets face it, today's world is all about the individual not the family. There is too much me me me and not enough love and togetherness. If you disagree then why are there televisions in every room of the house? Why do they put 10 different fast food joints next to each other? Why do you see divorce advertisements for $100 on a bus stop bench?
2006-08-21 02:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by Somebodyelse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if everyone in society wasn't able mentally or physically to commit anything immoral, then yes you would be correct, but it's not that way, a lot of women/men (more so women) these days find themselves marrying someone who becomes abusive or even generally becomes someone he/she wasn't before marriage. However, I believe that if divorce wasn't legal, the wife or husband in the abusive marriage would leave each other regardless of it being considered illegal, but I certainly don't believe that it should be illegal to get divorced. What if you or someone else ended up in a very abusive marriage? Do you really believe that that person should just take it and consent to never having any possibility of a happy future with someone else? I think God would rather have his child happy and unharmed, than committed in marriage and wrongfully abused and tormented.
2006-08-21 03:10:50 · answer #3 · answered by caitymercede 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my parents and even my own generation you don't enter marriage thinking Divorce is an option. I respect your belief based on your Christian faith, but doesn't the Bible teach that Adultery is grounds for Divorce.
In some peoples homes the spouse may be the enemy they live with. Staying in that kind of marriage could destroy the family unit far worse than divorce. So that is a decision someone may have to make to save what's left of their family and themselves in LIFE.
2006-08-21 02:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by laughsall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! This is a very good question to think about. It is true that adultry in the bible is grounds for a divorce,. That being said, an abusive relationship is also grounds for a divorce as well, although it is not specifically mentioned.
My family & I attend Lakewood Church here in Houston TX. We have seen people that have been through divorce & got re-married. Whether it was from an abusive realationship or as a result of an affair.
God hates the act of divorce, but he LOVES the divorced. That being said, if people would actually go thru a pre-marital counseling type course before getting married in the first place we might just have better & stronger families.
It takes one man & one woman with God being in the center of the relationship
2006-08-21 03:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by Phil P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My God where did you come up with crap like this. First Adam & Eve were the only man and woman in the world. No lawyers didnt even know anything. God told them to get out of Eden because they had sex and because of that we all would suffer. ALso did you ever try to figure out how Adem and Eve had two sons and one killed the other and more humans came to be. Interbreeding.
Life is full of choices and life has many decisions. We chose a mate that we really think will be to death. Since we make the decision we sometime make mistakes or other stuff happens and marriage doesnt work. God gave us minds to make decisions and also make mistakes. If God didnt do this we would be shown who to marry and we wouldnt have to find our mates.
Marriage is very important for many reasons and everyone should be lucky enough to find their sole mate. Sometimes it does happen.
People do take easy ways out and divorce seems to be the easiest while protecting the children and spouses.
2006-08-21 03:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in the real world, please.
As you say: you only see what you want to see! People do have decisions and limiting those is more damaging to them and their kids if you were to stop them splitting up.
A loveless marriage is no good for any of those concerned. The parents get depressed and bored, this leads to affairs and even greater instability. As a resul the kids just go nuts and think the world owes them a living.
It is better to get this stuff in the open and that society acknowledges people choices rather than to dey them and for society to bury its head in the sand and ignore the issue. This, in my opinion, is far more dangerous as banning it does not make a happy mariage it is the love that needs to be there that makes a happy marriage and not some twisted belief that 'God' somehow gives a ****!.
2006-08-21 02:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by Mr X 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
costly Neha, that's in basic terms approximately palpable that the marital bond has broken down thoroughly and irretrievably. yet regrettably Indian regulation because it exists at present, is per FAULT and except fault on the area of a companion isn't proved divorce isn't granted, with the help of fault I examine with grounds for divorce alongside with cruelty/adultery and so on. that's slightly unpragmatic through fact while bitter waters flow that is not mandatory to inspect from which source they spring, the marriage is an unworkable union and would give up to exist. suited now in basic terms the SC in severe cases can dissolve marriage if comparable is irretreivably broken down, although if that's an prolonged combat suited upto the remarkable court. it would desire to be a good suggestion to stay seperate (do no longer marry) could be a stay in, and attempt reason it out which incorporate your husband that Mutual Consent would serve the two's hobbies properly and that they'd area amicably on a good be conscious.
2016-12-17 14:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MARRIAGE RATES WOULD DRASTICALLY DECLINE.
CASE IN POINT: Look at what happened in the country of CHILE
Divorce was made legal about 4 to 5 years ago. Prior to that..people had families..babies..etc.. but they weren't married..
Now that's it's legal to get a divorce...people are getting married.
2006-08-21 02:39:04 · answer #9 · answered by RUNINTLKT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then some couples would end up killing eachother because they simply cannot stand eachother or by the abuse that is in some marriages.
Before I got married, I did not believe in divorce. Now I am approaching a divorce and I think it is possibily the only way I will be free of the abuse that my husband has done to me. Ignorance is bliss and unless you are in a persons shoes you should not make these types of comments on something you have no experience in.
2006-08-21 02:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by Isis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋