i found out my boyfriend of 10 years cheated on me should i give hime a nother chance?

Question

i went by him last night and his mother told me every thing then she showed mew were the girl lived so went around there i meet them two just pullin up from a day of bein out me and the girl and i had a fight then she told me she love him and he loves her he admit to cheatin but say he was lonly and lack attention from me he claims he still love me and made a big misstake i dont know i still love him but i dont know if i could find my self goin back to him after he slept with someone else he says he dont love the girl and he just did it cause he was hurtin but i was hurtin to that did not make me go sleep with someone else should i try to forgive him and make things right how do i know if its over between him and the girl how do i know when he leaves from me he dont go to her for sex again. we have a two year old girl together i dont want to get no sickness i dont even know if they use rubbers cause he wont tell me. am such a fool

Answer 1

IMO, once a cheater always a cheater.

But if you want to stay with him, get couples counseling. Make him wear condoms and insist on him being tested for STD's. It will be 6 months before an HIV test would be accurate so I wouldn't have unprotected sex until then.

Actually, I wouldn't have unprotected sex with him at all.

Did he say that he didn't love her in front of her?

Personally, I'd ditch him. You and your child deserve better.

Answer 2

You two have been together for 10 years - you have a 2 year old child together. What are you waiting for? How long do you plan to be with him before marriage? There is something that the both of you are not sure about. I'd say that this would be a good time to exit and move on with your life. He should always be a part of his daughter's life, but you 2 haven't made a stable home life together as yet - I doubt if you will.

Answer 3

Yah, you're right about his possibility of contacting a disease from that girl because you do not know her health practices. And because he cheated on you, it would really be difficult for you to give him back your trust.

Search you heart and soul if you really can't trust him again. But if you love him very much, you may forgive him but with his assurance that he will not see her again. Though it will be hard for you to decipher whether he will tell you the truth or not, giving him the benefit of your doubt may save you from worries and doubts.

But going back to your sexual life, you may really not be very safe to have sex with him because chances are he may see that girl again without your knowing it.

Perhaps, you can consider living in a very far away place where it will be impossible for him to see that girl again. If this is not at all possible, it will be time for you to decide whether or not you're going to continue your relationship with him.

Personally, I would say that if I were you, I would rather wait for the right guy to come my way, someone who deserves my love and tears, and someone who would love me through the years.

Answer 4

If he wont say if they use condoms or not chances are they didnt. Walk away from this fool and find a partner that deserves you. Someone you can trust and that wants to be with only you. If you let him walk all over you he will continue to keep doing it.

Answer 5

once a cheat usually always a cheat. If he truly loved you he wouldnt have dine this to you. If you can work it out and are prepared to give it another chance good luck i hope it works out...if not youshould move on and spare yourself from the possiblity of more heartbreak from this man

Answer 6

If he won't tell you something as simple as whether he used a condom. Then don't take him back. Just to be on the safe side I would also go to a health clinic and get tested for any STDs. You have to protect yourself and your child.