I split up with my wife a year ago and now I have a new girlfriend with whom I'm very happy with. The problem is my best friends wife doesn't seem to like my new partner even though they've hardly had time to get to know each other. My friends wife and my ex used to get on very well but she new I wasn't happy at the time. She says she has no problem with the split as I have to do whats best for me. I can see that my new woman and my mates wife have loads in common and I know that if they gave each other a chance then they would get on like a house on fire.
It's important to me because my mate and I play in a band and the familys always used to come to gigs etc but now it seems weird when they are together because I don't think they know what to say to eachother. Would it be a good idea for us all to go out for an evening and see what happens? Any ideas??
2006-08-21 02:24:46 · 10 answers · asked by Les-Paul 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
why don't you all go out for a meal and a drink so you can have a good chat and see how it goes. if your mates wife got on really well with your ex then that's why she's being funny with your new woman. you need to out together more often so they rub shoulders more and get to know each other better.
hope it all works out for you, and them !!
2006-08-21 04:20:08 · answer #1 · answered by 90210 aka Hummer Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask your friends wife what the problem is. You could arrange a meal out at a restaurant so everyone has an opportunity to get to know your new partner better, then go for a few drinks. It doesn't matter what other people say or think, it's your happiness thats important.
2006-08-21 02:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend's wife is still thinking about your ex ... Maybe you should get together with her first to talk about how she feels before you push her and your new g/f together? Obviously you will have to tell your mate - or risk some mighty big misunderstanding if he finds out ...
If she tells you how she feels, you can then get your g/f to talk to her and try to sort things out over a coffee or a beer or two.
2006-08-21 02:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best mate's wife is being very stubborn and rude. She needs to be told. Try talking to your best mate and see if you can get him to make her behave herself. Also, tell your girlfriend what you are doing to try to resolve the situation and get her on side. When best mate's wife realises that everyone else is in favour, she will probably change her mind and start being more civil.
2006-08-21 02:32:10 · answer #4 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've just answered your own question...get everyone together for an evening out. Maybe to a decent restaurant for a good meal and a few drinks. They'll have no choice but get to know each other and if they really do have anything in common it should become obvious and they'll soon warm to her.
2006-08-21 02:39:12 · answer #5 · answered by Munchy Mooneo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats happening with you is common and it happens to a lot of people
your mate's friend might say on the outside that she has no problem with the breakup etc but as you say she used to get along really well with your ex wife and inside she really cannot stand it that you are not with her anymore...
dont worry too much about it.
it may be strange but she'll have to get used to it - its your hapiness that counts most !
good luck
2006-08-21 02:33:57 · answer #6 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes that sounds good, or invite them round for a meal, and see how it goes.
It really does take time things like this and its hard when your mates wife has lost her mate (your ex wife) so don't change anything you do as long as your yourself- if they dont get on- it your mates wifes problem and if your brave you could say to her- why cant you behappy for me?
but give it time and see how it goes- good luck!
2006-08-21 02:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be a difficult case for ur friends wife. in my language we say a one who befriends 2 people, is always a cheat to one of them. regardless of the sutuiation one has to be at the recieving end. keep on trying, once ur pals wife feels less threatened things shud work out. after all, no harm in trying.
2006-08-21 03:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by kalik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend's wife might feel she is being disloyal to your ex by being chummy with your new girlfriend. Give it time.
2006-08-21 03:13:36 · answer #9 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes definatly get them together as much as you can that way they ll have no choice
2006-08-21 02:34:10 · answer #10 · answered by stanny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋