2006-08-21 02:21:54 · 35 answers · asked by tomfrom6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe she doesn't want to swing with you because she is truly in love with you and the thought of sharing you makes her sick. Maybe she did it before because she wasn't really in love and it didn't matter. Don't push it if she already let you know she doesn't want to. You may make her feel that she isn't enough for you. If you love her and want to be with her, you'll respect her decision and let the issue go. That's a pretty sensitive issue to push.
2006-08-21 02:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by steve e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why what happened did the swing break'lmao'!!!!!!Just kidding but seriously though i don't think swinging is such a great idea and i think your wife is a smart lady for not wanting to do it anymore..........i guess she just realized that is only makes a relationship a lot more complicated and maybe she is even feeling a little jealous of intimidated by the other ladies you are with!!!!!Talk to her and just try to understand how she may be feeling.........give her some time and don't pressure her into doing anything she don't wanna do!!!!!!
2006-08-21 02:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by Baybee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she has lost interest and needs to have it 'sparked ' again? Or she wants to stay exclusive, either way the key is communication, you really need to sit down with her in a non pressured environment and talk about how you feel and why you want to pursue this avenue. Don;t forget, you can go to swinging clubs but not openly participate with others, just close the door, that way you can still play voyeur and there's no threat to her feelings as she can look just as much as you do! But the key is communication, if you can't communicate openly, then to follow this would be a mistake for youo both
2006-08-21 02:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by SunnyDays 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a lot like me. I've known Im bi since I was seven. Prior to getting married, it was easy to go back and forth, but the commitment of marriage was more important to me than that. Your wife probably still has the desires to swing, but values your relationship too much. Believe me, that's not something to try and change. It's something to be thankful for.
2006-08-21 02:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess my question to you is, was she swinging when she met you, or is that how you guys met? The fact that she was a swinger and now has decided to devote herself to you exclusively is a sign that she is happy with you and has no desire to give herself to anyone else. If your into the swinging scene and want to explore it, talk to her and ask her if she would be interested in viewing you with others, sometimes just the fact that your viewing your husband/wife enjoy the company with others is very rewarding. Good luck to you both.
2006-08-21 02:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to go there, do you? She won't swing anymore because she loves you and respects you and your relationship, most likely. Why would you want to share her, don't you love her? Enjoy being faithful to each other. Why don't you try other kinky activities that will bring you closer together rather than forcing you apart such as role play or bondage if you are curious. Have a bit more imagination.
2006-08-21 02:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the same old story, guys wanting to f*ck as many women as they can so they'll feel like a stud, and women just want a quiet life, so go along with their men to swinier's parties. Let me tell you dude, there aren;t actually many women who do like swinging. How can a women REALLY enjoy it if an old dirty b*stard is groping her while 7 other men watch on w*nking their tiny c*cks? I have have been to swinging parties on the BDSM scene and it is always the same crap. Most guys pay hookers to accompany them to such events- how sad is that? If your wife doesn;t want to go, then don;t make her. Go and see a hooker- that's if haven;t already.
p.s- you are one sad f*ck.
2006-08-21 02:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by TotalBitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite a few good friends round, ply them all with alcohol, put an adult film on and let the party go ... other than that I'd suggest an ad on the web, a trip to a local club or a weekend in Amsterdam
2006-08-21 02:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her a swing for the garden perhaps you could buy one with a double seat and swing together.
2006-08-21 02:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by Drfoot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your asking for trouble, since she has and now won't tells me that by doing so now will end the relationship she is currently in, it might be that she knows that 3rd person is better than you and why tempt herself with a 3 some...regardless of reason, she says no...she has good reason...accept it and step up your own game if you want more excitement in the bedroom.
2006-08-21 02:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋