mine was arranged marriage, by parents.my husband and his family lied to us about his qualification? i am educated teached in a school. and today i came to know my husband is just a high school graduate. in betwen he mistreated me, and my family. now our relationship is ok. i give very high regards to education. i am feeling very betrayed and cheated. what should i do???????????
2006-08-21 02:17:26 · 19 answers · asked by cc20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him how you feel.........then decide whether its a "deal breaker"......or something you can learn to get by. People that have been lied to(affairs etc)........do the same.
2006-08-21 02:23:16 · answer #1 · answered by purefire41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first thing is why did he feel he had to lie to begin with? It would be hard to get passes him lying to you but, maybe you and your family left him no choice... At least he graduated from school. You have to give him credit for that. How long have yal been married?You said your relationship is ok, but he is mistreating you? your family? If you are that miserable leave... Life is too short to be unhappy !!! Good Luck!
2006-08-21 09:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it...give him some credit for at least finishing high school. "JUST a high school graduate." You think because you've had more education...that puts you above all the rest. Marriage is acceptance...regardless. If I was him...I think I would be very disappointed in you...cause I'm sorry to say that your attitude...really SUCKS.
2006-08-21 09:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by xxx 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, he lied but what can you do now? Do you feel betrayed enough to want to divorce him? Does your culture allow that? You say that your relationship is ok, maybe you can experess your feelings to him and the two of you could reach an accord. Or maybe he would be interested in going to school now.
2006-08-21 09:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is why I have a hard time with arranged marriages, you don't know that person that you are marrying. Sometimes you have to go against your culture to date. I am sure his family is happy that they married off their loser son and that your parents are happy that you got married, now you have to support his sorry a$$. Tell your folks you want a divorce, reason being he is an a$$hole who mistreats you and is lazy and a big fat lying jerk!!! My advice to you is....DATE!!!
2006-08-24 15:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too late now, if you're already married. Just let it go. How were you mistreated? Is it just because he lied, that's not mistreatment. Give up and move on.
2006-08-21 09:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't judge a person's intelligence by degrees hanging on a wall. If things are ok in your marriage, get over your prejudice. Knuckle down, stop feeling sorry for yourself and be happy.
2006-08-21 09:36:54 · answer #7 · answered by auld mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
who cares? really. he was just trying to impress you. i would find that flattering. will it make a difference in ur life if he was justa high school grad? i am, and guess what?! i'm very smart. you dont college to say ur smart. just get over it already, unless u have nothing else to worry about, which seems like it.
2006-08-21 09:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and if that doesn't work out, divorce him. And why on earth did you agree to an arranged marriage?
2006-08-21 09:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by Chels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what. If your relationship is not in any repair, then confront him about it, and move on. I can think of worse things that bring a relationship to its knees. Cheating for one.
2006-08-21 09:32:40 · answer #10 · answered by ndvsne1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him get the education that was said to have been in place before the marriage
2006-08-21 09:24:20 · answer #11 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋