My husband expects me to do everything for him. He wants me to cook, clean, and take care of him. He wants me to give him massages often, and he always likes to cuddle up with me when I'm watching TV and run my fingers on his back and arms. Is this normal?
2006-08-21 02:15:37 · 19 answers · asked by blue eyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some men have grown up believing that the wife should do all the cooking & cleaning. I think it depends on each individual situation.
It's ok for him to want to be cuddled & stroked... he just wants affection from you!
There is obviously something bothering you though... please talk to him about it. Maybe you feel like his mother rather than his wife? Does he help at all with anything?
Are you a housewife? If you are... then he probably feels that those are your responsibilities since he is the provider.
Does he massage you or give you the same kind of affection...
This might be one-sided and if it is it isn't right.
You are probably starting to feel resentment... you really need to talk to him about what's bothering you. Good Luck hun! : )
2006-08-21 02:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way back in time, women were the child bearers and the housekeepers. The husband went out and made the money and supported the family. Depending on your husband's upbringing, he may still hold some of the old beliefs. That and men are basically babies, they don't take the day's stress as well as women. I see no complaint here, cuddling and touching are important in a marriage.
2006-08-21 10:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your man is a wimp! Sorry but this isn't normal in my opinion. Sure anyone man or women love the attention and being treated like the center of the universe from time to time, but he can't expect you to be there at his beckon call. Some men (and women) believe that they are owed something if one of them isn't working a full time job., and the other is the sole supporter. Is it right? No. The marriage is give and take, considering you're married. Life in a marriage is two people working to achieve the absolute best in the relationship. IF one is a slacker, they need to consider their significant other, and work at being lasting partnership.
2006-08-21 09:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by ndvsne1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its probably because of the way he mother was or wasn't toward him. That and there seems to be this underlying rule not written anywhere that women are supposed to pamper there manly provider!! Lol... anyway do what you want to do. Don't feel like you have to do anything. If you don't want to be that person then don't be. I am sure he will find some other woman to fill that need just don't make it you unless you wanna do it for the rest of your life.
2006-08-21 09:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by Just Wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVeryone looks out for number 1 ie themselves........that 's the selfish approach. The mature approach is to give and take.
The cuddling part is normal for some couples.
2006-08-21 11:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, especially if you are very gorgeous or you're just married! at least he was very honest with what he feels! it's just that, he sounds too demanding! you are partners, right!? i guess, you just have to talk things over!! tell him what you can do, things that you must learn to do.. and maybe things that you can't do! and vice versa! have it like a sharing! remind him that even superwoman have limitations!! by the way are you a career woman!? if that's the case, the sooner the better that you should talk to him! good luck!
2006-08-21 09:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by xieri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has mother issues (mama's boy, maybe?). There's nothing wrong with being attentive towards your man, but there's a line between that and being his mom. He might (if he hasn't already) be on the verge of crossing that if he can't do anything for himself.
2006-08-21 09:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by T.G. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is quite immature, but you have no right to gripe about it because you made the choice to marry him.
So shut up, get off the PC and get that laundry done.
2006-08-21 09:26:09 · answer #8 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong? I would love a guy who wanted to cuddle with me. Stop complaining. I bet if you do all that for him your getting a lot in return.
2006-08-21 09:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the first answer!! You didn't break him in properly! That is ridiculous that you do all of that. He should be taking care of you the same amount if not more!
2006-08-21 09:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋