2006-08-21 02:10:14 · 36 answers · asked by Anusha 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
if you had to choose, marry the one who loves you. you can always learn to love someone who loves you. if you marry the person you love, that person may never learn to love you.
just a thought
2006-08-21 02:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
It has to be a mutual thing. If the person you marry is someone who does not love you then the marriage is void in the eyes of the church. That goes for the other way around. In that case, you should marry neither of them because it would bring problems. I feel the best choice though is the person who loves you as long as you learn to love him/her too.
2006-08-21 02:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by DJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is many splendid thing. What does your heart tell you? your instinct tells you something. The ideal is both but hard to find. The person you love is she close to you at all or how is your relationship with her and the girl that loves you, how close are you? You should never marry just because she loves you because you could settle for someone who will not make you happy. It is all in the chase but you have to figure out which one is most compatible with you. You should be with the person who makes you happy and you can share your dreams with be it with either or.
2006-08-21 02:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by radtadstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A similar question was posed to Marilyn vos Savant. It was phrased differently ("if you had to spend eternity with one person, would you want it to be with someone you loved or someone who loved you?"). She said she would take the person that loved her. The reason was she knew she could learn to love the person who loved her, but she could not say the same for the person who she loved.
Reading that made me realize that we (humans) do have some choice in who we love, though we often make that choice subconsciously. Give the choice you've presented, I too would go with the person that loved me. There would be no guarantee that the person you love would ever love you and you would have little or no control over that.
2006-08-21 02:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by Andy L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must say it's none of the above. If you marry the person you love but that person doesn't love you as much then you'll live in fear or sadness. If you marry a person who loves you but you don't return the same feelings then you'll live in a state of boredom, pressure and unfulfillment. Why don't you marry a person whom you love and respect and at the same time, that exact person also loves and respects you! Try that and you'll thank me forever!
2006-08-21 02:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by C h e e z C ஐ k e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things may be a bit more exciting for awhile if you marry the person you love. But if you want to be happy the rest of your life, marry the one who truly loves you.
2006-08-21 03:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by deedleydee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If those are the only choices you're giving, I'd suggest marrying the person who loves you. Never marry someone you couldn't live without.
2006-08-21 04:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by Jayna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah...love...
first of all, if the person that you love returns the love, then, definitely, marry that one. however, if the person you love doesn't love you, don't marry that one because unrequited love is sad, and you don't want to be in that mix.
now the person that loves you...
this is more of a moral question, now. are you going to marry this individual based solely on the fact that he/she loves you? if so, then you shouldn't marry that individual, it would be cruel. however, if you can spend the rest of your life with that individual, then go for it.
a marriage can work, and last, without being in love, the two individuals must love and respect each other, however. i see marriage more as a business relationship...
there must be respect, honesty, compromise, trust and commitment. if two individuals commit to starting a life and a family together, they don't necessarily need to be in love, they do need to commit, though...
bottom line, if you are asking the question, it seems you don't know for certain, and in that case: let them both go...
2006-08-21 04:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by Dizzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say the person you are most compatible with, if you want the marriage to last. Anyway, if the person you love doesnt love you back, then he probably wont wanna marry you, which doesnt really leave you with much of a choice, does it???
2006-08-21 03:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be best if you both loved each other! But if you have no other options, choose the one who loves you. Even if you don't love him at first, you will probably love him eventually because he will be loyal to you and take good care of you!
I'm sure that others may have different opinions on this, but my dear Muslim friend is doing it this way because she can't find a suitable partner that she loves, so she's going with someone who will love her first.
2006-08-21 02:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by Ms T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the point of marrying someone u love but the person the does not loves u back...same goes to what's the point of marrying the person if u don't love him but he does...there is suppose to be bond from both of u...
happy marriage...best regards
nabila
2006-08-21 02:46:05 · answer #11 · answered by nabila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋