what is better, to be with someone who you love but does not love you, or to be with someone that you don't love but who loves you?
suppose if i'm staying with the one who loves me i'll fall in love too, also, if i'm staying with the one who doesn't love me, i can make her love me -- so in both cases, let's say each one will love the other -- the question remains, what's better? stay with the one who doesn't love me and fight to get her love, or stay with the one who loves me, and wait till i'm falling in love too?
2006-08-21 02:08:50 · 17 answers · asked by E H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I prefer being loved over loving somebody any day.
2006-08-21 02:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know which is better for you - you have to follow your heart. I personally think love is overrated and you have to look for other things in a person, because after the initial feeling of "love" fades, you still have to look at the person every day and be happy with them and your life with them.
I have been married 3 times - twice briefly and now for almost 18 years. I can say that I do love my husband, but I really don't like him very much as a person. He has a short temper and is verbally abusive to me and no matter what happens, it always ends up being my fault. I have thought of leaving in the past and recently, but we have three children together (ages 17, 17 and 12) and I know I cannot make a move to uproot them from the life they have been accustomed to. I had to quit my job (one that had a lot of potential) when my twins were born and then went back to work four years ago, but I had to quit that job when summer came and the kids were out of school. Now, I am looking for employment, but everyone wants you to work for $10 per hour which is not worth it. I'm not sure what I'll do.
At any rate, I wish you luck and hope my experience will help. Once again, you have to weight the pros and cons of both people and then make your decision. Don't rush it, but rather take your time and try to make the best informed decision you can possibly make.
2006-08-21 02:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
neither. find someone that is crazy in love with you and you're crazy in love with them. That's the way love works. If you're in a relationship and one doesn't love the other. Eventually you will end up split up. The one who doesn't love the other will become use to having them around so will stay for a while, but when they really find that special person and the love goes both ways, the other realtionship will end. So why wait. Wait for the sertant someone, he/she is out there some where.
2006-08-21 02:17:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither is better it should be that both of you love each other. But for the one who loves you whatever you do don't hurt her feelings by not loving her the way she loves you. If you like her and care for her show her some love. GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-21 02:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone love you. How would you be living with them if they didn't want to be with you. If you didn't love the person, why would you live with them. How do you know you would fall in love with them. If you are not already interested in someone and you are just expecting to be with the person and making yourself fall in love, that will be the true reason for a bad relationship. Niether one of you will be happy.
2006-08-21 03:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by laci e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone love you... they will develop feelings on their own. Neither situation is good. To be in a relationship, each person should love each other... that is the healthy one.
2006-08-21 02:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by camping_girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in a bad spot. Things probably won't work either way. You'll be better off to find someone you love who also loves you.
2006-08-21 02:17:17 · answer #7 · answered by johntadams3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should stay out of any relationship till you get both
2006-08-21 02:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by Shaboomshaboom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. You both have to love each other or it will not work
2006-08-21 02:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by majesticwife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with the one who loves you, you won't be hurt by never knowing the truth about the other
2006-08-21 02:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by Tom M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋