i am too possessive about my GF.i cannot sto thinking about her.she studies at a different college.she is very much innocent and i think i over -react everytime i hear somthing about her.now i think i stepped over the edge.i want to change and be a better man for her. please help me out
2006-08-21 02:07:46 · 11 answers · asked by loving_u_4ever_n_always 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to have more confidence in yourself.
This is a core issue, and has little to do with your girlfriend, until it starts to affect your relationship with her, of course.
What you need to do is address the voices in your life that have undermined your confidence in yourself, and replace those voices with affirming truths about yourself. Anything that tells you you are worthless or undesirable is simply not true. They aren't true for anyone...but unfortunately too many people believe those sorts of things and it messes up their lives.
We remember the negative stuff much more than the positive things people say about us, so just remember that a lot of positive reinforcement will be necessary to make your problem go away.
If you don't believe the positive reinforcements you'll have to do some thinking about what is truly important in life.
2006-08-21 02:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember one thing. Girls (or Boys) are like buses...wait around and another will be along shortly. The moral here is that you worry too much. Each girl is the ONE! Until that one moves on and another comes along. Different schools? Probably not much future in it...as people tend to grow considerably in college and new experiences tend to change people (not good or bad, but simply a fact). My advise...let it ride. Don't worry too much and certainly don't be possessive. Do what YOU need to do. Explore your own world and quit worrying about hers. If both of you keep in touch and things work out long term...great! If not, consider it a blessing and wait for the next bus.
2006-08-21 09:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by Caesar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some jealousy is very normal, but worrying about her too much is not healthy for any relationship. You have got to give her space and room to breath on her own, so therefore both can have this growing trust and confidence in one another. Your long distance realtionship or a few minute away drive realtionship can work. Just next time you have a bad thought about cheating, ect. think positively, think she loves me I love her and we are going to be happy!!! Thats it let go of those insecurities they don't mean anything at all!!!
2006-08-21 09:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possession and relation are two entirely separate things. Don't ever measure both with the same scale. Its nice to know you want to be a REAL Man and change your suffocating ways.
Give the benefit of the doubt when you hear from someone regarding her, anything good / bad.
SOMEONE is not important , SHE is.
TRUST yourself first then automatically you shall trust her.
2006-08-21 09:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by Rainbow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and trust her. That's all you need ever to do as the man in the relationship. She might be young, innocent (and a virgin), but i'm sure she knows right from wrong and wouldn't dare hurt you. Don't listen to flying rumors - get it straight from her.
2006-08-21 09:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by venus101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave behind the possessiveness.
Be practical and natural.
Change attitude.
Attitude is everything.
What is attitude:
manner, disposition, feeling, position, etc., with regard to a person or thing; tendency or orientation, esp. of the mind:
2006-08-21 09:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope she knows about your possesiveness about her well.It's okay to be possesive i mean all of us do dream of having a lover who can stick to you like your shadow more often than not.Just talk to her about it.
2006-08-21 15:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by lam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to be patient. Second, you need more things to occupy your mind. Do you not trust her? If you don't, then you shouldn't be with her!
2006-08-21 09:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by jessigirl00781 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey!! you are on the right track just keep working on it.
trust is the key. will make both your lives more enjoyable
2006-08-21 09:13:01 · answer #9 · answered by ricky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just relax.........dont allow yourself to be possessive...........men or women.....are not things you own..........more like things you enjoy.........and care for. Owning someone..........just drives them away.........faster!
2006-08-21 09:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by purefire41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋