Squizophrenic husband.?

Question

I have been married for 3 years and togheter for 7, my husband is squizophrenic, does anyone have a hubby that is the same? how does it affect your relationship? have yous marriage been destroyed because of this condition?? please i need advice of how to deal with people with this illness.

Answer 1

I used to work with a woman who was a diagnosed paranoid schizophrenic. She was very interesting to talk to when she wasn't have a break with reality. She was so fun and interesting we became friends outside of work.

Then one day she called me to come over to her house and I went there. She was sitting on the couch almost catatonic. I asked her what was wrong and she asked me if I would wash her dishes? I did. When her children came home from school I asked them what to do and they said because she's paranoid, she occassionally flushes her medications down the toilet as she thinks they are poison. When her husband came home I left.

Both her and her husband were recovering alcoholics and had financial problems as a result of their alcoholism before they became sober. She had been hospitalized several times in the psychiatric ward for extended periods of time. Their children acted up probably because of everything the parents were going through. She did tell me once that her brother had committed suicide, that he had been a schizophrenic and that it does tend to run in families.

Eventually her and her husband divorced. I lost track of her as I moved to another city, but I hope wherever she is that she's doing well.

I worked with another woman whose sister was a diagnosed schizophrenic. She thought that men would come through her walls at night to take her 2 year old son. She ran with him on a Greyhound all around the country to escape the men. One night in a motel room she shot her son in the head twice. She said she did it to save him from the men. She was found not guilty by reason of insanity and as far as I know remains institutionalized.

I read about schizophrenia because of those 2 people and as far as I can understand, they see and hear things that aren't there but they actually believe they are and act upon them. It can't be cured and sometimes can't even be controlled. It's a very difficult mental illness to diagnose and treat.

I wish nothing but the best for you.

Answer 2

Do you love him and want him to get better? Then do not abandon hope. Nurse your husband. There is very good and specific medicine available. If your husband can trust you then he will meet the doctor upon your advice and will then realise the difference that medication makes to him. It is also important for him to be physically fit and have a busy schedule. Having a social life also helps. There could be help groups in your area who could help engage your husband. If the neighbourhood knows about his condition and shuns him then change the neighbourhood.

If you do not love him and would rather get on with your life, turn him over to an institution.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

not my husband but my mother has schkitzophrenia, she was very unstable at first, and without the medicarion that she takes now she was really unstable, paranoid, and had many holusinations, which was sceary for me to see when I was growing up, noe as well as taking he rmedication she recieves and injection 1 every 2 weeks which really helps she is fine, the best way to deal with it is , take each day as it comes, do not put your husband under any stress as this condition gets worse in stressfull situations, take him on holiday, take hi to see a pscychiatriast so that he can solve his issues, and the most important thing is, give him plenty of love! good luck to you, this will only destroy your marriage if you let it.

Answer 5

Schizophrenic people are VERY hard to live with. My mother has schizophrenia. My dad just sits there and doesn't hear much of what she says and that's how they have stayed married for over 30 years now. She's gotten worse over the years. She hears voices and everything, plus multiple personalities.

You can enjoy their good times and try to get through the bad but it's VERY hard. I don't know if I could do it.

I would try to get him medication and keep him on it. I can't tell you not to stay married though. That's up to you.

Answer 6

do you mean, schizophrenic!? by the way, when did you discover about it!? well, if the insanity is bothersome, it would probably affect the relationship of the husband and the wife! if it's bearable and control able, considering that love still prevails amidst this problem, the relationship could still move on! but if you really love your hubby, why not ask the help of experts about it!? good luck! =')

Answer 7

Has he actually been diagnosed as a schizophrenic or is it possible he is bipolar? There is medication for both conditions. Get him to a doctor and take the doctor's advise on how to deal with your husband's condition.

Answer 8

First off, make sure he is getting medical treatment. He needs to be medicated and he needs to be under doctor supervision. Second, think very hard about having kids with a man with schizophrenia; it is hereditary and there is a good chance kids you have with this man will be schizophrenic themselves. Third, you must think about your own situation -- is your husband violent? Is he showing signs of deterioration? If so, you need to get away from him and fast. Good luck!

Answer 9

i have a friend who had such a husband once. and she had a baby with him, but one day he started breaking everything in the house, painting her walls with eggs and hurt her. she had to leave the house in a rush and divorced him. the worst part is that schizophrenia is genetic and it can be transmitted to kids.
and also, my godmother has this disease. she was a mess her entire life, she got this disease from her family (her uncle had it). she cannot be trusted, if she is left alone she would starve or she would take the first train to an unknown destination.
so, my advice is...leave your husband as soon as possible. this disease is permanent, it can be only improved, but not treated.

Answer 10

Competent psychiatric and psychologic care with a medication regimen that must be adhered too should be able to keep it under control. When it is out of control, get him to an institution immediately. Realize that it is not about you. You need to distance yourself from his mood swings but still care for him.