I'm not being in anyway against just curious, because I hear some gay/lesbians saying they were born that way but know some that changed for straight to gay?
2006-08-21 01:50:35 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am not trying to be ignorant in no way because my "friend" was not ever thinking about being gay but she gave up cause she felt that no other guy would want her again because the guy she was with was a gerk. So you can either leave a reasonable or nasty answer.
2006-08-21 02:05:22 · update #1
it is possible for some to change from being straight to being gay. sometimes if a guy has sex with a girl, doesnt like it too well and he experiments just once with a guy, he can b hooked for life and never turn back. same with girls. is it wrong? no. everybody deserves the right to be happy with who they want. so since i have a friend who is in an abusive relationship, im giving up on helping her only cuz she doesnt wanna get out but ill always b there when she gets hit again and called names and raped for the 4th time.
2006-08-21 06:30:35 · answer #1 · answered by mat 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The same way that you were born straight. Did you consiously decide that you were going to find men attractive? No, you just did. You were born that way. I would say that most of the gay population has been with someone from the opposite sex at some point because of denial or societies pressures. Ya know the whole man/wife 2.5 kids living in the suburbs in the house with the white fence thing... it works on the mind. And if you do let it get to you anf choose to live a straight life... then that is a choice but that doesn't change who you are.
2006-08-21 02:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by Just Wondering 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
People are not born gay or straight. Attraction to the oppostie or same sex is developed through our culture, home life, friendships, personal experiences, etc.
These influences start from day one and so people feel as if they were born a certain way. I was not born straight, but over the course of my life, my various experiences developed into a preference for females.
Being born as gay or straight would make it a genetic trait. This would mean that the gay population would decrease over time and eventually go "extinct" since gay people produce far less biological offspring than straight people and for the trait to pass on, those offspring who inherited the trait (which would not be all of them) would ahve to also produce biological offspring.
Obviously this is not happeneing and the gay population has remained fairly constant, though it is becoming more socially acceptable to "come out" as a gay person. (Which is a good thing!)
It is just like developing a preference for certain styles of music. It happens over time and there is nothing wrong with your choice.
2006-08-21 07:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by forestevergreen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a google search for the kinsey reports. It goes in to great detail about the percentages of society that are born straight, bi or gay. Most people are born straight. Only about 10% of people are fully gay.
1) Some one that says that being gay is a "choice" is most likely a bi themself. They have it in them to be attracted to either sex. A true gay can't do this. They can pretend, go in denial, become a big homophobe and go around bashing other gays - what ever. It still doesn't change how they are. Then can no more change their blood type than their sexual preference.
2) The Doctors and clergymen that say that they can turn gays into straights are full of it. It doesn't work.
2006-08-21 02:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
People are born with their orientation set. They may not discrover it until much later in life, just like everyone else. There are some people who aren't interested in the opposite sex until their twenties. Does that mean they miraculously chose to become straight? No. It just means that they were a "late bloomer." Also, there seems to be an assumption that every person is straight until the shout otherwise from the rooftops and advertise their orientation in the local paper. Someone may be gay or lesbian, but not come out of the closet until their much older.
2006-08-21 06:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very few people can choose their sexual orientation, or as you say, change to gay.
The overwhelming majority of people are born with a predisposition one way or the other. Science is just now starting to see this.
What you may be perceiving as "changing to gay" is the natural process of coming out, first to oneself, then to others. It takes time for a person who has been raised as straight to overcome the societal programming and familial expectations, and assert his/her true nature.
For example, a very brief personal story;
I grew up in a very religious household, the last of 6 kids. As I grew up, I saw all my older siblings dating people of the opposite sex, so I (unconsciously) figured that's just what people do.
So, I tried for years to do that, and I was miserable, even with very nice guys. I didn't feel at all like my older sisters who would talk about how great it was to be dating this or that guy.
Then in college, away from my family's influence for the first time, I met a girl, and, well, I learned who I am, and why I was so unhappy dating guys. I was much happier, and I have never looked back.
So I ask you: based on my story, was this the moment I chose to become gay, or was this me realizing for the first time that I had always been gay?
Feel free to interpret it the way you like... but I know the truth.
I was born gay, and it just took me a while to realize it.
2006-08-21 05:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot of debate on sexuality being genetic or not. Quite frankly, we all experience it differently, and all I know is that I've always been attracted to girls. It was never an issue, so I guess I was born a lesbian. In fact, the period in my life I dated guys is something I call my "experimental phase". I did the hetero experiment just like heterosexuals that have gay experiences in college do it to try. That doesn't mean that I started out straight and then turned. It just means that I checked out the other side, confirmed I was gay and embraced my preference.
2006-08-21 03:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by cmm 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ummm... because it's true. Gay people were not made into gays,... it is a naturally instinctive feeling that has been in place since birth. Just like straight people were born straight. If your friend feels that she's giving up on men, then there must have been some latent homosexual feelings that she has always had and just either ignored them or tried to repress them all along.
2006-08-21 06:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by pceej 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The people you know "Came Out," they were not straight, they only acted the part...big difference. We are born as we are born...gay or straight. When someone who is born Gay acts straight, dates, etc., then switches because he/she is tired of living a life that is not satisfying, it appearst that the made a choice...they did! They chose to live a life that satisfied them and the way they were born. Good luck
2006-08-21 04:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that people who are not gay, say that they were born straight? It is just how it is. We are born how we are born. Some people choose to suppress who they really are for a variety of reasons, only to stop fighting it later in life. This does not mean they were born "straight" and then became "gay".
2006-08-21 02:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by rp_iowa 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋