My boyfriend has this close female friend (she has been friends with all his family for more than 10 years) but I can't help but think she wants him when she calls him all the time. He doesn't talk to her in front of me.. she lives quite a distance away from us so I'm not worried about him cheating, I just don't like the idea of them talking so much. I have never even met her but I hate her cause she is moving in on me and my man and our family. Am I being paranoid or what should I do?
2006-08-21 01:48:53 · 11 answers · asked by sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Trust plays a major part in any relationship, without it there is no relationship. You should not jump ahead of yourself by assuming that she is after him. If you are worried about the relationship between your boyfriend and his female friend then you would be better off talking to him about it. The longer you leave it the worse you will feel towards her when it may be innocent. No body likes the green eyed monster.
2006-08-21 02:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, make sure if they had a thing before.
Second, make sure if she has a boyfriend.
If not, get to know her.
I believe the girl your bf chose to be friend with has some common traits as you. If you and her immediately likes each other and become friends, then u have nothing to worry about. But if u just dont like her, no matter how hard u try u just don't like her, tell your boyfriend about it and ask him if it is possible that he won't talk to her anymore.
2006-08-21 08:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by angela 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is not handling the situation very well. He should be very up front about her to you so that you can relax. Since you are not married to him, unfortunately, this situation is technically OK. If you were married, I would say you've got a problem. It all comes down to how much he respects you, which appears very little since he is being mysterious about this family friend. Find out more dtails if you can - don't be afraid to come out right out and ask. You deserve to know.
2006-08-21 09:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can always meet her with him and see how it goes, but don't let the ugly green monster out of the bag, it will ruin the relationship.
besides most long distance relationships are usually nothing but friendships that span great lengths of time and offer a away to vent frustration in good form and not the other way,
so meet and decide of just leave it alone and stop being paranoid
2006-08-21 08:58:05 · answer #4 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has been there for 10 years...she isn't going anywhere. Don't think too much about it or you will make yourself sick. Have him invite her down so you can meet her and perhaps that will ease your feelings about her and the situation. Believe it or not, guys and gals can be long tie ' just friends ' WITHOUT hanky panky being involved. I have a few close guy friends that go back 15 years.
2006-08-21 08:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it with your boyfriend, and ask him to introduce you to her after all if it were any of his male friends i,m sure he wouldn't have a problem doing it. after meeting with her see how she and your boyfriend act around each other, if they're a lot of playing around maybe you have something to worry about, my bet is she is just a good female friend nothing more, i also have a female friend that i can talk with freely and yet have never had sexual feelings for her, maybe your boyfriend is that way also. good luck:)
2006-08-21 08:58:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. If he geuinely loves you, he will be attentive, understanding and concerned that you and he reach agreement on a matter that bothers you. If he doesn't, he'll be dismissive, defensive and ridicule your insecurity. Perhaps you might ask him if you had the same relationship as he, how would he feel about it?. Been there.
2006-08-21 09:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by tightsnrights 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your boyfreind that you would like to have dinner with her get to know her a little bit better and tell him that if you are friends with her why can't I tell him that shes in your life but so am I good luck God bless you
2006-08-21 09:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by Libra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a bit of paranoia. Talk with your boyfriend and let him know how this bothers you.
2006-08-21 08:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In place of thinking very hard and get annoyed , pl do call her and speak to her , if you find anything more , pl do warn her .
2006-08-21 09:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋