people say: "Think positive and you can change things" I have tried, but evil events affected me?

Question

people say: "Positive thinking can change things"
I say:" negative events can change positive minds".
So, I have learned one very important thing: "If positive mind cannot succeed the change the situation, the problems will change the positive mind"
Everybody think that with positive attitude things can change for better. But nobody tells the truth that evil things can change the positive attitude.
You always think: "I am stronger than problem"
But what if the problem is stronger than you?
In my case, I was not able to solve the problem; instead, the problem change me and now I am part of the problem.

Answer 1

All problems change you - that is unavoidable.

Part of being changed through a problem is learning and growing.

I consider myself a positive thinker - though I haven't always been happy. I too had "evil things" affect me very negatively - but over time those things have become part of the story of my life. Other experiences have happened that have been good - and I live for those moments.

Positive thinking is not only thinking or believing the best will happen - it is also accepting that bad will happen too BUT that eventually you will overcome it.

I hope you will give yourself time to overcome the difficulties in your life. Change & growth do not happen overnight - but when they have happened, it is easy to see how far you have come & how much you can be proud of.

When you can be proud of overcoming obstacles - then you can be positive - BUT - you must believe YOU CAN!

Good luck.

Answer 2

I think part of the problem has something to do with your interpretation of the Buddhist doctrine of "non-attachment". You won't allow yourself to be "proud" of your accomplishments, and you won't allow yourself to even feel a bit of pleasure from them. I don't think you were meant to go off on some kind of ego trip when you experience success, but you can bask in the "golden moments" in a very non-attached way. Let the beauty of the little golden moments wash through you and energize you, so you can continue to do your best job and help others. It is the beauty of the moment and the love, not the your ego that floats you up. It can be something so quick and seemingly insignificant that can give you the power to be positive. I remember one such moment of total affirmation from the universe that happened to me almost 20 years ago. I was hiking in a wilderness in the mountains with a friend. I was totally exhausted, sweating and dirty. We were almost at the campsite, and I came around a bend in the trail. A young man appeared - a park ranger - and gave me the most beautiful totally open smile, then disappeared. In that fraction of a second I received total affirmation, contact and love from a total stranger. It was much stronger than any other contact I have ever had in my life. Perhaps it was because I was totally open and postive at the time. My exhaustion and the beautiful surroundings removed all my natural barriers. Normally, some protection is a very good and necessary part of survival. I am just thankful for that moment.

Answer 3

If you view the problem as a 'problem' it continues to be so. View problems as 'challenges' and have that confidence in you that you have to overcome them to be victorious. We all have our drawbacks and weak moments. Remember tomorrow is always a new start, a new beginning always. Never look back. Never allow the circumstances have the better of you. Be a free thinker and expand your horizon. Try to mix with people of all ages - it helps. Be a child among children and play with them in a week or two. It is things like these which enhance our horizon and keep our mind busy. Or help an old man cross a road. Hold his hand and say if you still need to help him. I always try to change because change is growth and believe me growth is life, no growth means decay, slow decay and becoming dead. Growth signifies life and try to live it up with all its challenges. Fresh ideas come to my mind every morning when i get up and on no two days they are alike. Its a wonderful feeling when i woke up this morning and till this time. Now i get a beautiful feeling answering your wonderful question. Good luck!

Answer 4

What ever you say is true - for you. To be positive you must act positively, it works like this. Thought - Word - Action. Follow through with your positive thoughts. You are so close, try looking at problems as challenges. The other important thing to remember is that life comes from the inside out. Things don't happen to you, You are happening!

Answer 5

Letting your failure consume you is always the easy way out....but you will end up unhappy and defeated as a person. When your positive mindset is affected, that's where perserverance comes into the picture. There's a Japanese proverb that you could apply at this appropriate moment "If you fall a hundred times, you need to pick yourself up a hundred and one times to walk again." Fight hard to remain positive, it's not easy but you've got to try.

Answer 6

You are focusing on all of the bad things that go on in your life. If you switch gears and focus on how blessed you are and the good things in life, you'll see that good events circulate around you. All you have to do is change your perspective.

Answer 7

Hello dear!
You are doing fine!
It is not easy to just think and change everything!
We always need assistance from proper people an I think Epicurus IS a proper philosopher!

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Answer 9

i thinhk you are still thinking of negative . this the power of negative that attract us ,but positive things can chang thing it takes a lots of time .in case of negative it does not take time .thats why many people choose short curt. as i think you still choosing short curt way.

Answer 10

True prayer gets what they want. It seems like you are not believing in what you are asking. be yourself, don't doubt on anything, be whole hearted and you will get the answer, becuase the god is in you, god bless you