i am a 39 year old divorced physician, and a young nurse (she is 22) and i had sex after work the other day. she is married with a daughter. i think she is very attractive and nice. she initiated the relationship with me. what should i do? i do like her, but she is a lot younger and married
2006-08-21 01:28:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Cut the relationship off. Immediately.
For whatever reason, she has decided to dishonor her vows, and you are helping her.
Also, I would bet there is some hero worship here. You, better than I, could tell of the nurse-doctor dynamic.
I am not a big "age" person, though I do see how it can affect relationships. The big issue to me is the "m" word.
If I may be blunt, you have failed at a marriage, and probably know the pain associated with divorce. Granted, it bothers me that your nurse friend has ignored her status and her daughter. Is anyone thinking of the child?
Stay blessed.
2006-08-21 01:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by TreLawrence505 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop! She should not be doing this and neither should you. She has a child to think about for one thing. I don't know anything about her relationship with her husband, but if she's not happy she needs to get out. And do it the right way. I was just cheated on by my husband (first time I've ever been cheated on in my life, by the way), and I have a child, and my husband didn't care. Neither did the girl he cheated with, who knew me, and my son, and didn't care what she was doing. Now I'm going through a divorce, and I hate both of them for what they've done. I would never ever do that to a person. I'm glad to being getting divorced, my marriage wasn't all that great, but I didn't deserve to be cheated on, and my son doesn't deserve to be going through this either. It would have been better if my ex had asked for a divorce, instead of cheating and then asking for a divorce.
Ok, I'm sure I'm a little biased here, because of what I'm going through. But you really need to stop. It's wrong to mess around with another man's wife, regardless of their relationship. And there's also a child involved here. Just think about it.
2006-08-21 20:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by Tonya G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she is married makes it wrong. If she wants to be with you, then she needs to a divorce from her husband first. Age has nothing to do with this, it is just the fact that she is married is what makes it wrong.
And the fact that she initiated the relationship with you does not make it right either. You should have been man enough to say "Hey your a married woman and I'm not going there!"
2006-08-23 01:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid that it is against the sociteal norms.
but at the same time, since both of u are adults and more so consenting ones, there is nothing wrong in the relationship which i hope is based on the mutual trust and physical needs only and not to get some undue advantage or under any pressure.
2006-08-23 03:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, BE CAREFUL!
See, your a doctor, so she must think you have lots of money. Secondly, you're a young man, so she figures you have a future and you're definitely worth taking a chance. I don't know if you're married, but she is definitely looking to upgrade. It'll only be a matter of time before she puts the squeeze on you.
If I were you, I'd let things stay where they are. Sure, it was fun, but now it's time to back off and go home. If you let it run to a point where she can put the squeeze on you, you might en up regretting it for the resto of your life.
2006-08-21 08:48:19 · answer #5 · answered by Nestor Q 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You r single and u need not worry, on the other hand she is the one who is married and she is the one who needs to be scared about her family and future and afcoarse ur relaionship. As she is the one who started it all, u should ask her what will she like to do next. Does she want to continue with u or she wants to get back to her married life. These are some questions which needs to be discussed upon.
2006-08-21 08:38:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP IT RIGHT NOW! Your are destroying a person's marriage! Think of how that will affect her child? And - if this continues and she gets found out are you ready for the baggage that the relationship will bring? She will expect you to fill the "husband void". ... You savvy?
2006-08-21 08:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by iluvafrica 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is married, you are playing with fire. No good usually comes from such hookups, and that is exactly what your escapade was. Extricate your self from that relationship before it is too late and you get your pants sued off for alienation of affection.
Chow!!
2006-08-21 08:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by No one 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should end it right away before it flares up into a big trouble...yes it is exciting but trust me it's not worth it. if she really wants the relationship then she has to divorce her husband then you could be together if you want it too
2006-08-21 08:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by dede 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she is looking for an outlet in her unhappy marriage.
Do you really want her "young hot looks" to make you "THE OTHER MAN?"
Unless she makes and choice to end her marriage, stay away! And dont get her pregnant, child support on your wage would be a *****.
2006-08-21 08:33:56 · answer #10 · answered by Miz_Kassandra 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋