I seems to have lost interest in making love, not that I have any health problem (ED), just that I cant find the passion/eagerness in it. Please advice how to rekindle that passion, as i really do not wish to hurt my wife, thus what i am doing now is to force myself to make love with her. PS: I get turn on by watching porn movies, but i feel uncomfortable watching porno movies with my wife
2006-08-21 01:27:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
watch porno movies, look at dirty magazines, spy on women in local park..
2006-08-21 01:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by tariq k 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Can't give you a 100% solution. But it is good that you realise it now then later.
1) Talk to your wife.
2) Be honest and seek to rekindle that passion with her together. In the process good things will happen.
3) But the most important thing is to stop watching porn because you are being hypnotise and fed with an ideal fantasy rather than real.
Some people can draw a line between fantasy and real-world, but some people cannot.
Therefore, your porn watching is the biggest reason why you have no passion with your wife anymore as you have started to live in this sexo-fantasy-state of psychological imbalance.
To put it simply, you are in a dream world, which can turn bad in the long run by causing you to seek other real women to satisfy this porn fantasy, and may in the process hurt your marriage.
So please come down to earth, and seek a therapist together with your wife.
2006-08-21 04:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by J L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, ask yourself, do you still love your wife. Secondly, reflect on your relationship with your wife. Thirdly, have a real open talk with your wife to share with each other on this subject of lovemaking. You will be able to understand better each others sexual needs and preference.
After all these actions, make an effort to make the sessions more enjoyable base on the information gathered after the talk with your wife.
If all these does not work, you should ask yourself does the problem lies within you. Are you too stressed up say your career or some other issues which contributes on how you are behaving now. Watch porn movies is not the ultimate solution.
2006-08-21 02:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by Trecillia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Skip the porn - that will only lead to worse problems. Time for a change but I would suggest that you investigate those changes WITH your wife and WITH a certified sex therapist. Since you state there are no physical problems (but you really might what to check with your doctor anyway because you may have a lowered testosterone level which can be adjusted), a couples sex therapist might be the thing for the two of you.
Good luck - and it's great that you want to work this out.
2006-08-21 01:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by two 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Many men have a drop in libido. I would think about hormone testing to be sure that is not the problem.
Also spice it up. Go to an adult store, get a game, toys, lotions and stuff. Try new things with your wife to get the romance back into it.
Whoever said love was easy was an idiot, sometimes you need to work at it a bit to stay new and exciting.
2006-08-21 01:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by Heather B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How previous are you? Does your spouse seem pleasing to you? If it really is a case of her getting frumpy in her age, dicuss going to the gymnasium including her as her workout habitual better half. do not mean she is overweight/etc, yet really that you want to spend time being energetic mutually. it really is a shown undeniable truth that those who workout habitual are extra sexually energetic. something about getting that blood-flowing makes a woman a ways extra arousing then she may were. as well, it will make you both sense extra constructive, and grant you with something to bond over.
2016-11-30 22:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make an appointment to see your physician to rule out any medical problems.
If everything checks out, i suggest you sit down with your wife and let her know how you have been feeling about making love with her. Perhaps between the two of you, your discussion can lead to some viable solutions to a sensitive problem. Also, sex therapists are available to handle problems of this nature.
2006-08-21 01:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
be honest to her! isn't it, the best friend ever about matters like that is your partner!? in that way, you can also tell her that you are being arouse when you watch porno and how you feel when you're watching it with her! isn't it wonderful solving your problem together with her!? if that doesn't pacify you, you better ask the help of expert professionals..
2006-08-21 02:04:39 · answer #8 · answered by xieri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l know this a bad situation 4 a man.Maybe u try some chinese medicine or whisky.l think u must be very tired with your jobJust let yourself relax.Let your wife service u.Don't think so much just pay fully attention to make your wife.Maybe u can ask your wife to moaning so that u can get more interest in making her.just like f'uck me honey f'uck me harder.Try it my friends.bye
2006-08-21 02:01:54 · answer #9 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about that and reassure he that you are using it as a tool for something different. There is nothing wrong with watching porn movies. Couples need to keep their mind fresh and active in the bedroom.
2006-08-21 01:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go to a doctor. There may be a medical reason for your loss of libido. High blood pressure is one. Stress is another. There could be others.
2006-08-21 01:55:30 · answer #11 · answered by Ironball 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋