Telling your girl that you know they are away meeting someone behind your back, even though you have no actual evidence.
2006-08-21 01:24:59 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-08-21 01:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by Aby J 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
before making any kind of suggestion like this you need to find EVIDENCE we all think things and they end up being wrong and then ends up splitting a relationship and maybe sometimes thats for the best but not in all cases.
But then im not saying you should start reading her text messages and personal stuff, because thats being paranoid.
Sometimes our suspisions are right but just to be safe just wait till you have definite evidence that this gal is cheating on you.
But then if you think about it, if you can't trust her is there much point being together anyway? I mean i guess some of us have questioned our partners but if you feel really strong about your suspisions then theres no trust in the relationship.
But let this be a lesson for you, noone likes a partner who is paranoid so for the next relationship you get involved in, make sure you trust and really truely love that person before letting the relationship getting too deep
2006-08-21 08:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suspicions are not always justified, but go with your gut instinct. You can of course tell her that you know she is meeting someone behind your back and call her bluff, but you also run the risk of ruining the relationship if you are wrong. Sooner or later, if she is guilty, she is going to slip up and you will know for definite. In the meantime I suggest you keep looking for clues. But as I said at the beginning - go with your gut instinct. The only way you will know for sure is to ask her outright and see if she looks guilty if she denies it. Depends how much you value the relationship if you want to risk it.
2006-08-21 08:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can and even should ask her flat out if she is. Without evidence or actually knowing for a fact from her or your own eyes all you are doing by accusing her is telling her you either don't trust her or don't want to be with her. Either talk to her and express your concerns or rely on your instincts which you should almost always rely on your instincts, and try to get evidence. Listen to her phone calls if you have to whatever to find out if your instincts are correct. Follow her in another vehicle. You can check her website history, whatever. I check on my guy because he is a guy. I have been hurt before and no sense being naive. But if it turns out you are wrong and she isn't trust her a little bit more. I honestly find out for sure before expressing my concerns and then we talk it out. I have not caught him in anything yet so I trust him more than I use to. Almost completely. I don't even check as much as I use to. So my advise is to try and get proof, then confront her and tell her what you found or if you didn't find anything, tell her that you were concerned for this but your not anymore.
2006-08-21 08:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question. I am passing for this. I have evidence but I don't want to tell him how I finded it out. In other way, You cannot rely on them anymore because the doubts always is going to be there.
2006-08-21 08:30:21 · answer #5 · answered by danesaber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't trust then the relationship will never work so yes you may as well ask her.
and in my experiences 99% of the time my suspicions ahve been right.
it's much more interesting to get some evidence though first, so maybe next time you should just see where she goes. seeing is believing.
2006-08-21 08:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by ricky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you, I always trust my instinct. But I woulnd't tell your missus that you know something when you have no proof. I'd do your homework and then show her the evidence - otherwise she'll change tactics and you'll look daft.
Good luck on this and I hope she's not cheating on you. If she is - ditch her, there's always loads of other women worthy of your time :)
2006-08-21 08:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by Mum-Ra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. If you have a gut feeling abut something, keep your eyes and ears open. If you have no evidence, then you might ruin your relationship based on suspicions.
2006-08-21 08:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by Luna 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no smoke without fire. But you can only confirm your suspicions if you have evidence. Just make sure that you're not being paranoid.
2006-08-21 10:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by Munchy Mooneo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just for the record, i did this before.
Congratulate me.
That effectively made me the biggest paronia doubting idiot ever.
Please, stop doing it, treasure them instead of always suspecting, and whats more you have no actual evidence, if they came back with a love bite on their neck, go ahead, scream break off, but if not, you back off before they scream break off.
2006-08-21 08:30:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jeremy Lee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just asked me if you can trust yourself. Only you know the answer to that.
You can't accuse her but what you CAN do is say to yourself. This girl makes me feel suspicious and uneasy or insecure.
Then ask yourself why you would want to be with someone who makes you feel that way...no matter what is really going on.
2006-08-21 08:32:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋