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I've a 5 & half yrs old boy from my previous marriage who is going to be in Kindergarten this year. My boyfriend of 4 yrs asked me to move in with him and plan to start the new family. He wants me to be a stay home mom taking care my son, we are planning to have more kids of our own as well. I've always worked in my life. I'm raised in the way that don't rely on man, earn your own money and be independent. Plus I just switched to a great job early this year, I earn decent money with great benefits myself. He makes very good money which is well enough to take care of family. I love to spend more time with my kids, I can see myself drop/pick him at school and more involved in his school as well. But I also find it's difficult to walk away from my job and money, I can't imagine myself ask for money from bf. My ex doesn't financially support my son, I feel it's my job to provide him. My plan was to hire a nanny after we've a new baby. What would you do?

2006-08-21 01:23:09 · 5 answers · asked by lost 1 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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2006-08-21 16:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by emmomexec 2 · 1 0

I would not give up the job.

In life you have to look beyond the corners.. Now you are happy with your current boyfriend, planning a new family, and I honestly hope that life will be wonderful from now on.

However, what if it isn't all smooth sailing? what if in 5 yrs down the road, you guys break up? will he still be willing to pay you to stay home? or will you have to scramble to find a job - any job - allowing you and your children to survive? and who would support your older child?

If you really decide to stop working and stay home, you should get married, and have a marriage contract, stipulating what kind of support you will be able to expect in the future. I am sorry to be pessimistic, but you should look after yourself.

2006-08-24 08:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by OneLilithHidesAnother 4 · 0 0

Well if you want to try it give it a chance. Personally I'm very independent and I can't be without working even though my husband makes a lot more money than I do I feel like I still contribute to the household and its a lot harder to find a job after you've been out a few years. Maybe you can try just working part time cutting back your hours.

2006-08-21 14:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by honey27 4 · 0 0

i would keep my job if that's what makes you happy. i don't like to have to depend on any one either. but times are tough right now and i don't have a job right now cause i got laid off and i hate having to ask my husband for money for any thing! so i think i would keep my job because you just don't never know what will happen.

2006-08-21 10:33:55 · answer #4 · answered by sonya i 1 · 0 0

if it was me in your situation, I would keep my job because you never know what is going to happen in the relationship. I mean, at the moment you two are not married, I would at least work until that commitment is made and final.

2006-08-21 09:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by amazincajn_99 4 · 0 0

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