My best friend brought up the fact that I joked with her older husband and he was hurt. Four of us were out to dinner. Me, my husband, her, and her husband. I told her there was an elderly man next to me who had an "old people smell" and it was hard to eat. Then a few minutes later, I joked with her husband and said, "Do you have the old people smell?" His reaction was a chuckle. Well, 5 days later, my best friend emails me that he felt I spoke in bad taste, and it was rude of me to say this. I apologized, but told her I, myself was hurt by him taking offense to that when I was only kidding. Well, one thing led to another, and we (through emails) argued back and forth, and ending with her saying I am just like my mother, a self centered whining baby, and I needed to get a life, and not count on other people to make my life happy, and numerous other put downs to me. Now in all our email conversations, I never once put her down, or did any name calling. I am hurt beyond belief.
2006-08-21 01:14:51 · 4 answers · asked by antiquecollector_83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are so wrong about me. I am a kind person, who was trying to make a joke, and made a mistake. Please don't judge me in this way. It was not intentional to hurt him.
2006-08-21 01:38:07 · update #1
It doesn't matter what you've never done to her in your emails. Her husband is hurt (could he feel a little threatened by your friendship?) and that makes her want to take care of it, since you are her friend.
The joking does seem a little over the top to me. I winced when I read it. It could be a sign that you say and do things that you may not be aware of. Don't get defensive. Be apologetic and ask your friend to help you understand her point.
BF's are hard to come by. Don't throw it all away because of one incident. Your relationship can grow deeper as a result of this. If not, you will be a better person for having tried. Good luck to you!
2006-08-21 01:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by Jazmanana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let this be a lesson to you.You never know how some people will react to what you say, so if it is not complimentary, or just general chit chat, don't say anything which can be interpreted the wrong way in a joke.
2006-08-21 01:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your remark was very offensive. Watch what you say. He was very polite to chuckle. You are a prime example of someone who gets a kick out of belittling someone who most likely wouldn't blast you back. Sounds like you're jealous as well. But you would never admit it would you?
2006-08-21 01:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u do learn from ur mistakes. but now u know not to repeat this mistake and do it over again. hopefully ur best friend will get over it. good luk!
2006-08-21 01:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by guess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋