How do you think your physical relationship with your spouse effects.....?

Question

effects the rest of your relationship? Which REALLY comes first....when things are going well in the relationship, does sex automatically happen naturally? OR.....have you ever found that perhaps you are disconnected with your spouse, and somehow you manage to have a nice intimate time together and all seems better after that?
I find that both effect each other........but I get moody and distant when there's not much going on physically, and then.....the rest of the relationship gets more strain on it. How does it work in your marriage?

Answer 1

My hubby and I have to have a long distace relationship, for 10 more onths as I am studying far away from him. We cannot even visit so often that is why we chat very much, and call each other also. We find it very easy to switch from the physical part of the relationship to completely "normal" topics within a few minutes. We feel very comfortable about the topic and don't need to hide, or to disclose it in any way of our normal life.
This strain you mention is indeed normal, but it has never happened to us, as both parts of our life for an entity. There is as much going on physically as we are just sitting together and talking or going out somehwere.
Our relationship doesn't get "better" after sleeping together, it is always very good. One should not (in my opinion) use sex as means to make the relationship work. It comes naturally with us, and we feel so both at the same time, so no problems there...

Answer 2

Okay people Male class 101.

Male need to be physical and have sex. every 3 to 4 days. Sorry but that is how we are built. Goes back millions of years.

Women get PMS and men get something like this but not the same. Happens every 3 to 4 days for men. I am not giving you B.S. it is a medical fact. If males don't have this they go into moods. Just happens like how men think different than women.

At times you might not want it and there will be times he wont. There will be times that you want it and he doesn't. It happens. But in relationships we need to give and take a little.

The more you are intimate with your husband the better times you will both have doing other things together. I cant explain via this format but trust me. Intimate, physical and emotional connections is one of the most important part to a great marriage. You don't aways have to have intercourse to achieve these connections.

Answer 3

I'm not a true Dr. Phil fan all the time, but I agree totally with his answer to this type of problem. If you have a good marriage, your sex life is about 10 per cent important. If you have difficulties in the marriage, the sex life is 90 per cent important. It's a hormonal/chemical bond which greatly affects everything else in the relationship = that's what makes marriage so special.