2006-08-21 00:01:14 · 27 answers · asked by *SugaryLips* 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
What a sad question. I think it reflects an unfortunate trend, but it's good you asked it because I think it helps to bring awareness to it. I think that many guys are gentleman, but it may not be the norm anymore since back in the 70's or so when feminism took a rather extreme route. Alot of fellas are confused about how they should behave.
Personally, (and this is just personally) I always try to be a gentleman. To hold a door open for a woman and to let her go first is a sign of respect as well as personal character. It only takes a moment to treat a woman with respect and to be a gentleman. A true gentleman should enjoy the chance to treat a woman this way and not look upon it as a chore, duty, or even as a perfunctory exercise in ettiquitte.
I may sound old fashioned, but I'm in my 20's - so go figure. But regardless on how times may change, good manners don't go out of style.
Thanks for asking this question. I think it reminds us all how the little things count.
2006-08-21 13:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that 98% of guys are perves. i'm a guy and i kinda like romance stuff sometimes,sometimes don't.Depends... i would love to be romantic and caring and warm and understading but i found it hard to do...I'm still young 17 soo there's soo many things i have to learn and now i learned a little about women maybe because of my age...It's a lie if i say that i've never fell in love...i've fell in love only once when i'm 13...It's beautifull the first time experience is unforgettable...Well i don't think i'm the kinda of guy you'd like to meet yes i don't really like to see woman wearing bikini or expose themselves is it make me a gentlemen?I don't know what kind of guy i am...and if i am a gentlemen i had a confidence problem...it's hard for me to start a conversation with woman and or say hi to them...it's complicated...>.<...well maybe i am still too young...
2016-03-17 00:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100%. It seems like the more independent women become the lazier and buttholish (is that a word lol?) men become. Or, they are romantic and act like a gentleman in the beginning and then once they have you reeled in they don't even bother anymore. You aren't the only one who has noticed that.
2006-08-21 00:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by mlc24_1980 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What for relationships don't last very long anymore anyway.
I think men would be more likely to be gentlemen if they knew there women wasn't going to cheat on them -ever!
2006-08-21 00:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by mburleigh8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that those traits in men are generated in two ways - first, it depends on how they were raised. Did they grow up with a good example of this behavior? Taught to show respect and affection by utilizing good manners and proper procedures? If they were treated with respect growing up, and shown how to BE a gentleman, these become a natural part of their behavior - which is why we don't see it much anymore.
Second, I think it may have a lot to do with their own self image and maturity - a man who is confident in himself and his role in society is much more apt to be willing to make the extra effort to show other people that they have value also - hence the respect that is shown in romantic or gentlemanly behavior.
It's hard to be a man in today's society, I think. For centuries men were the bread-winners, the protectors, and the undisputed heads of their families; this behavior is instinctual to them. But with the strides women have made towards equality, it's got to be confusing for them to know what their role really is - learned behavior is constantly at war with what their instincts tell them.
One of the first big steps in the Women's movement was a lashing-out at men if they acted in a gentlemanly way - opening doors for women became an infuriating action that got them accused of thinking that women couldn't do it for themselves - a ridiculous turn of events, but it spread quickly. So we have a whole generation or two of men who didn't do things like that, and it comes back around to boys being raised by example.
Whether they're aware of it or not, this has got to have an overall effect on how they react and interact with women, and brings us back around to the maturity and self-image angle. Ideally, with maturity, men have been able to come to terms with what their role is in society, and with that confidence are able to put more time into courtly behavior.
Guess what I'm saying is that it isn't entirely a deficit in men that has brought this lack in manners - women as an entire gender brought it on ourselves, and the men often don't know what's expected of them. For such basic creatures, that has got to be as confusing as hell.
2006-08-21 00:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by Crooks Gap 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're looking at the wrong ones.
You must be judging 'guys' on the portrayal of them in the media, which has definitely taken a turn for the worse as of late.
2006-08-21 00:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think all of them aren't... There are still nice guys out there... About 35 percent of all of the men.
2006-08-21 00:17:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm...Something for all of you: Modern women do not want romantic guys. Nowadays, romantic is when someone gives you their sit in the subway. Romance doesn't fit in our age. It is a thing of the past.
2006-08-21 00:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is definitely a trend back to devalueing women. But it's not only men that are doing this. Women are accepting their lower status.
an acquired taste, I guess
2006-08-21 00:13:37 · answer #9 · answered by thrag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I felt I had to prove it, I'd work up quite an argument.
2006-08-21 00:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by Diesel Weasel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋