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Could there be hidden forces that prevent me from achieving my goals even if I put in more efforts? please help me find myself.

2006-08-21 00:00:59 · 22 answers · asked by sweetyp 2 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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I'm going through the same thing, God has something for us, just wait and see

2006-08-21 00:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by chrisp972000 3 · 0 1

No hidden forces...Just sometimes an opportunity comes around and we just don't see it. Life is hard, and people you come across can either be a help or not. There are users and losers all over the place. The people/places/things we associate ourselves with has an effect/affect on our lives!..Life is like playing chess....if I make that choice to do this/that, what kind of affect/effect is this going to do for me....there aren't any quick fixes to our lives. We have to do the work. That means not being too hard on yourself, setting reachable goals, don't get sad/mad if you see someone else who is getting all the breaks...your time will come! If you have a crappy job, be looking for a better one while you got that one. Relationships? there is 4.5billion people on the planet, there is someone for you. Be a good person and don't sweat the little stuff, this too shall pass. You seem young, so if true, then I'll say you've got your whole life ahead of you and you can do whatever you put your mind to! one step at a time!

2006-08-21 07:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

The only force that may be preventing you from achieving your goals is the outlook you have. You have to try to see some good in everything (because believe it or not, there is truly good in everything). You have to believe there is a bigger plan for your life. A relationship may not have worked because that person is not the person for you. Maybe you didn't get the good job you were seeking because there is a better position for you elsewhere. Try to look for the positive in everything you do and all of your interactions. If you find it difficult to find something positive at the end of the day, at least be grateful you were able to wake up and experience the day. Pray for guidance and keep the faith. Good luck.

2006-08-21 07:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by philly_q_t_2004 3 · 0 0

I think this happens sometimes when we too often allow things to happen "to" us rather than being proactive and having a plan.

If you want a good job, try to understand the specific skills that you need to get that job. If you lack the skills, then get them somehow. Try to get to know someone in that line of work who may be able to help you. Often it is who you know in addition to what you know. Then go for it. Lots of people have the right skill sets for a good job. The people that actually get that good job have something extra over the others. What is your special edge?

On relationships, all I can say is that you have to stay positive and keep meeting new people. If you come to new relationships with a negative predisposition and a lot of emotional baggage, this new relationship has a better than average chance of turing out like all the rest. Again, what will you do differently this time to "give you the edge" to make things different.

If you feel that something like hidden forces are "preventing" you from getting what you want, then you have a victim mindset. You believe that things "happen TO" you. But often, we create those undesirable outcomes by our behaviors. We all have some "bad luck" streaks, but you have to try not to get discouraged and keep on trying. One definition of insanity is doing things the same way over and over and expecting a different result. Try something else. Best of luck.

2006-08-21 07:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by John 4 · 0 0

That's a hard one to answer truthfully but id say that luck has something to do with it and how much we all try to understand what our failings are as people, and how we can learn to change behaviours that cause us to fall down in certain areas. I don't believe that people are on an even footing in this world some people have fantastic childhoods, others have abusive ones and some kids are different or have intellectual limitations but there are people out there who say that nothing is unachievable; and it tends to be the ones, who have had a pretty easy run that come out with those comments. Its not impossible for someone who has had a bad start to life to make a goer of it its just that they have the handicap to begin with in most cases. I could be right off track here but that's my take on it

2006-08-21 07:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

First of all you have to believe in yourself if you expect others to believe in you also. It sounds as if your self esteem is low and that really needs to change. You must have self Love first and foremost in your life. Know that you are worth the better things in life. As for Luck...Well I am not one for believing much in luck per say however I do believe we get as much out of ourselves as we are willing to put into ourselves. Meaning if you want a better job - educate yourself. If you want to achieve goals - make sure they are realistic & achievable at first - Start slow and small then build from them. It is the little successes in your life that you learn to cherish the most. Also Learn to count your blessings in your life everyday & cherish them. Remember there is always someone some where a lot worse off then you are. Don't forget to tell yourself that failure is NOT an option. Failure is only present in your life when you truly give up and stop dreaming. You must believe to achieve as the saying goes.

2006-08-21 09:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by lil redneck 3 · 0 0

YOU have to find YOUR OWN SELF, honey. You're motivation and goals may be out of line. You're stragegy in life might be off. The way to get through those things is to give of yourself without expecting anything in return. The only "hidden forces" are your own insecurities. Give of yourself....volunteer your time and efforts to less fortunate...and you'll find joy in your life.

2006-08-21 07:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0 0

We create are future with our thoughts, words & deeds!

If we think, speak & do negative things our lives move in a way opposite to that of those who think positively.

Unfortunately, our thoughts also create a sub -conscious pattern which is the hidden force that weighs everything down!

Some positive thoughts & attitudes that make things 'work' are
1.Accepting everyone as they are without judging them
2.Waking up in the morning looking forward to the pleasant day ahead at work & at home.
3. Saying this everyday to yourself, "I Love Myself"

2006-08-21 07:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by Cool Guy 3 · 0 0

It's simply that phase of life, my friend. It happens. I am writing this out of a genuine concern for a person out there somewhere. I dunno who you are. But I sense the pain in your words. You simply have to wait for that phase of life to get over.

Don't push yourself too hard. Enjoy the simple things in life. When was the last time you ordered a REEEEEEALY expensive dish from an upscale restuarant and allowed yourself a little time to enjoy yourself. Do that. Do something you've not done in life before. LOVE YOURSELF. Genuinely.

Extraordinary success may not come yourway right now. As in say,...Jobs. But start somewhere. Make a move. Make small accomplishments. And wait for the really sweet rewards to come. They do come. Believe me. They do. May God Bless you.

2006-08-21 07:16:43 · answer #9 · answered by nene_soberman 2 · 0 0

As far as i am concerned dont get vexed it matter of time as well as timing donot worry Pls try to find what you dont like & which you dont know try to know these things & try to over come these issues.Surely You will Suceed Hope for the Best time is nearing you so put some more effort.

2006-08-21 07:08:40 · answer #10 · answered by santhosh 3 · 0 0

Yeah, your trying to hard. you have the rest of your life to achieve any and all your goals. Don't just look at the flowers in life,stop to enjoy them, Good luck.

2006-08-21 07:08:51 · answer #11 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0 0

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