That I slept with her husband when she was (what she thought) happily married to him, although I wasn't proud of myself at the time, it happened on more than one occassion in their bed, with their young son in the house while she was pregnant and travelling with work. She is now separated from him as she found out about his other indiscretions, do you think I should just shut my mouth or tell her, even though it will destroy her?
2006-08-21 00:00:17 · 43 answers · asked by Saccharin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No need for the insults by the way, I've had most of them thrown at me.
2006-08-21 00:04:33 · update #1
Forlorn Hope: Yes.
2006-08-21 00:09:45 · update #2
i had one of my best friends sleep with my boyfriend that i had been with for five years and they had been sleeping off and on for that five years, she got drunk one night and told me about it, me and the guy had recently broke up, i felt bad for her, i thought i would be mad and upset but i wasnt cause i realized what a sorry azzhole he was, she was more hurt by his actions than i was i was just trying to move on with my life, its hard to tell someone something you think is going to hurt them and you may not want to tell her but i would tell her, and be prepared for the worst if she doesnt want to be in your life anymore that is the thing you are going to have face and just dont make the mistake of sleeping with a friends man, men come and go but a friendship is forever, we are only humans we all make mistakes just live and learn and tell her how sorry you are for hurting her good luck
2006-08-21 00:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How could you even consider telling her?
I think you need to take a long hard look in the mirror and evaluate your motivations for even considering it. You were not her friend to begin with or you would never ever have slept with her husband. Yes it takes two but you have the ability to say no any any good friend would have done that instead of sleeping with the guy.
I think the best and most honourable thing you could possibly do would be to keep your silence and learn something. You can not go through life destroying people's lives- because when it comes down to it you will suffer most of all. You can either learn this lesson the hard way or the easy way. You will find that a bad reputation is easier to get than it is to shake and you could find yourself very very lonely if you continue to behave the way you have been doing.
You can either destroy somebody's life and live with the consequences or salvage whatever wisdom you may from your deplorable behaviour and resolve to never do the same thing again.
I wish you luck
S
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2006-08-21 00:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need for the insults? You have heard most of them?
Go ahead and tell her, why don't you just bring her down some more while she is at her lowest point in her life? Rub it in her face that you slept with her husband when she was pregnant. Rub it in her face that you did something that horrible to a person that you dare to still call your friend. She is not your friend. You most likely don't know what a friend is.
2006-08-21 00:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend? Are you sure she's a friend? I will coin a phrase from someone else now.... you don't qualify for a fcuking life! With her young son in the house too?
Sounds like she's well shot of him, and why don't you do the decent thing and get out of her life, and if that means telling her, then do it, or slope away under the stone you crawled out you heartless b1tch.
2006-08-21 00:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should keep your mouth shut on that one. He might tell her at some point anyway. The husband was happy with how things were but he lied to you so he could get you in to bed. It worked. They are only separated now becasue he got caught and she kicked him to the curb.
2006-08-21 00:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a difficult one but I don't think this is a good time for it. She's already going thru a lot at the moment and to add insult to injury might just be too much for her to handle at one time. I say give her some time and if you feel that you must tell her, at least wait until she gets herself together enough to handle another blow.
2006-08-21 00:21:57 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have admitted and taken responsiblity for your mistake that is the first step hopefully you are not involved with him anymore. i have a tendency to go along with the other answers about telling her she has been hurt enough already. the only thing do you feel right still having a friendship with her after
all this? you need to move on with your life and hopefully you learned from this and you will find a single man.
2006-08-24 19:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
eek a difficult one.. you call her your friend, then perhaps honesty is called for, esp in case her estranged partner tells her first.. she may reject you, sadly this is a consequence.. You cant change the past, she may not forgive you, you may not forgive your self.. but if this friendship is real then sadly it has to be based on honesty.. sorry probably not the answer you wanted? this is just my opinion, depends on how long ago it was, don't go into graphics.. some women prefer to know the truth. You know her better than us? good luck.
2006-08-21 00:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by dianafpacker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her.
Can't believe you slept with him while her son was in the house. If you were my mate I'd knock your teeth out so I suggest you keep it a secret.
You must have low self esteem, there are certain places you don't go and your best mates man is one of them. Incest springs to mind, are you jealous of her??
Your a tramp....sorry, had to get that one in!!!
2006-08-21 00:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by Gypsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend wouldn't sleep with another friends husband. i suggest keeping your mouth shut and finding out thru counseling what kind of a person you are!!
2006-08-21 01:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Robert V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋