My girlfriend often complains that I dont observe enough details and am not careful with what I do generally in life and this is 1 reason why ou relationship is not goig as smoothly as hoped.
2006-08-20 23:47:18 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
I am not talking about my communication skills; though it may be relevant. I am talking about my weakness in observing things more thoroughly and being more careful in day to day life.
An example of not being careful is like for eg. not reading important information regarding what time your flight is and arriving when the flight is departing. Buying medication when you dont read the warning label and the medicine will actually put you at risk just because you did not read.
2006-08-21 02:03:52 · update #1
You may have ADD or ADHD. There are plenty of websites that offer suggestions to help people get organized. Setting up and maintaining structure will help you keep a handle on things. You may be a person that needs prescription medication to help you with this. It gets frustrating but try to remember that when your girlfriend points out to you that you've not been careful enough it is because somehow, either directly or indirectly, it has an impact on her life. A good example of a way you might make an improvement is--say you keep losing your wallet. Probably you are losing your wallet because you didn't put it back in your pocket. You need to have a rule for yourself that everything has a place, and nothing should be put down in any other place except in case of emergency. Maybe you laid your wallet on the store counter and walked away with it still lying there. If you didn't need to put money (change) back into it, it should immediately have gone back into your pocket.
I lived with a person who was like this. It was very difficult for me. If he lost things or didn't get things done he needed to, it put more responsibility for taking care of our children, our home, and him onto me.
Nobody is perfect, nor will they ever be, but that doesn't mean it's not worthwhile to be the best we can.
2006-08-21 00:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by mnemows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now u got me started..... Usually people reflect their own insecurities on others. So it may be that you are not really as she says. If you really wanna be careful, you have to do the hardest thing: discipline. Control urself as much as you can. But in a sane way. Try reading "The 7 habits of higly effective people" by Stephen R. Covey. It'a a great tool for learning self control
2006-08-21 01:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sabina S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your girlfriend does not like you very much as that it a pretty general thing she does not like about you! See if she can be more specific. While I don't know if there is hope for your relationship or not, I know that changing yourself by 20% often creates the perception in others that you have made SIGNIFICANT change (like an 80% change).
Good luck!
2006-08-20 23:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by Libby 44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use google. try effective communication/ non verbal language etc
there is lots of publications on this topic, especially over the net. If staring at the screen for ages doesnt appeal to you, then go to your local library or adult learning facility & look up topics such as the ones mentioned above.
Good luck, you have a lucky girlfriend for your wanting to improve yourself for her. :o)
2006-08-21 00:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋