i got married when i was young at 18 yrs, got 2 kids from a man who later died,from him thou i found him with 2 boys as well and had separeted with thier mum, but when he died, the parternal relatievs denyed my own 2 girls and took up the 2 boys of my late husband n we were traditionally married. i took life easy n moved on,left the small town where i leaved n went to the big city with my kids n met this other guy whom i fell madly in love with thou he was too much of mum boy, we got lots of breakups n make ups n later married and wedded in church, had a cute son with him n when our son was just 14 mths only he cheated on me with another woman n left me all alone with the kids, i couldnt stand the high bills i gave him his son, now its comg to 2yrs of separatn n we signed seperatn legal papers n have been dating this other one whom we a mad at each other n doesnt mind abt my kids n wants to have 2 babies wit me,can i marry him?? i love him alot thou my family may make noise abt my men.
2006-08-20 23:45:55 · 16 answers · asked by kiss me. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first of all, learn to spell. dammit!
2006-08-20 23:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by spyderman1212 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baami!
I think you may be around 24 - 25 years old now. I am really surprised by your marriages and married life experience.
Who ever they were, just used you for their sexual urge and you didn't understand the way of life. After being the mother of three children none of them are with you.
So I feel marriage will not give you any security further.
Forget all those good and bad days of the past. Don't enter in married life immediately. You require lot of rest and health care.
You have to be alone and stay in any of the working women hostel. Take up a job that will protect you from all the evils like hunger, shelter, necessities etc.
Spend some time in the prayers and going through phylosphical books will give you lot of comfort and solace.
Take Care - God Bless You!!!!!
2006-08-21 07:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by SESHADRI K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to think through your life without any interference first. I ve got a feeling you will have so many kids from different fathers, cos with all your partners apart from your late husband, things start hot and later your break up, I have a strong feeling that the same might happen with this man you will end up having kids with this man and when it comes to a break up again you will give up your kids again that you are unable to take care of them.
Take time and be alone first, your kids need the love from you.
Any way if you really love this man, marry him but don't have kids too soon or ever wait and see how things will move first afer all marriage is not all about childern.
2006-08-21 07:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by mwilaeuzaih 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, love whomever you want but don't have anymore kids! Get your tubes tied! Having a baby doesn't make for a more stable relationship or show your love for that man. It just brings more hardship on the child involved. And you move from man to man so much, the kids don't have a chance. So...love all the men you want...just don't have any more children, ok?
2006-08-21 06:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the world a favor and stop breeding. Just because you meet someone new doesn't always mean you have to have their kids. Try to maintain some d*mn control. Worry about the kids you already have and not so much about every d*ck that comes along.
2006-08-21 06:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For Gods sake lady stop getting married and having kids. You need to get your head screwed on correct before jumping into another relationship.
Get some counseling and stop jumping to another telling yourself you love next one in line so much.
Stop. Life is more than getting married and having kids. You need a break to take care of yourself.
2006-08-21 06:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should start improving your English language first and after that go find a decent job to support yourself and your family. It seems that you have a "bee's syndrome" by going from one flower to the next in search for nectar. Think about marriage seriously for once and be satisfied with what you've found.
2006-08-21 06:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me you think you can't be happy without a man in your life. Why don't you just concentrate on your children for a while. Soon enough the right person will come along.
2006-08-21 06:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What country are you in? I could never imagine giving away my kids just for a divorce unless the court told me I had to. All men cheat and you will be cheated on again. If you are happy with a man then find it in your heart to forgive him.
2006-08-21 07:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont u have time to do anyother thing than think of men.? i suggest u concentrate on the workload u have right now which are ur kids and leave men alone.its bad enough u didnt even allow yourself to grow up first before jumping into a man's pants
2006-08-21 07:03:27 · answer #10 · answered by babygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really should get some counseling and give your family the kids for a while. Be on your own, learn how to take care of yourself before you depend on another man!
2006-08-21 06:52:17 · answer #11 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋