i wanted to have sex for the first time but im sooooooo tight and im scared it will hurt if he inserts to hard or fast what should i do im 16 am i up for it
2006-08-20 23:17:57 · 35 answers · asked by mum mummy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you really need to think about this hon. Virginity is very sacred. what happens if you get pregnant? have you thought about that?
What happens if he says he will take care of you if you get pregnant and then doesn't? Can you take care of a child ?
2006-08-20 23:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why oh why are you trying to rush things....You're only 16 yrs old. You have your whole life ahead of you....
With STD's, HERPES, and HIV/AIDS....using a condom isn't a guarantee either. Society and the media have given teens the false sense of security that using a condom is the answer.....Do you know you can get HERPES...even if you use a condom....not to mention the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy....(THIS happens quite often too)
You'll find at 16 the guy will tell you anything...promise you the moon just to get into your pants. After he has accomplished this you're the talk of the locker room...."he will be bragging and embellishing things that didn't even happen".
It's worth hanging on to the virginity you have and wait until you're older and MR. right comes along....AT 16...you haven't yet matured enough to meet MR. right!
The kind of thinking you're having right now is: "I want what I want and I want it NOW., and I don't care how I get what I want as long as I get it NOW". This ideology comes from someone who is self centered and selfish.....only thinking for the moment and never taking into account the consequences that might come out of this kind of selfish thinking.
Cool your jets.....take a cold shower.....and appreciate life. Don't rush into things that you are not emotionally, mentally or capable of handling at age 16!!
2006-08-20 23:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so worried about it then you are obviously not ready. You should be comfortable the first time and it seems as though you are not right now. I have heard of so many people regretting their first time having sex. You don't have to regret it. All you have to do is make the right decision. Are you sure this boy is the one? Don't do it because you feel you should. No one will look at you any less because you have not lost your viginity. Trust me...if you wait and do it right then you will be sooo much happier at the end. I trust you will make the right decision.
2006-08-20 23:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wanted to have for the time. What is the present status. Are you still on for it. If so, be natural and enjoy after sharing your views with your partner. There is always "First time" Break the ice and enjoy.
Moreover, are you sure you are soooooooooooooo tight or you just feel you are tight. If you exactly know it, I think you are already ready for it. No problems.
2006-08-20 23:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every girl have this fear when she have sex 1st time. At 16 you dont worry. There will be pain at first insertion & some blood will come out. But after that you will enjoy heavenly pleasure. WHEN IT IS IN , ITS VERY GOOD
2006-08-20 23:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by narendra k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that you are ready for sex, then you be using safety precautions. He should be wearing a condom. hopefully you talked about you being a virgin to him. He should know better not to insert you in a hurry. You.ve got all the time in the world.
2006-08-20 23:28:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say it usually hurts the first time anyway. Just take it slow and easy and make sure you are real wet, ready and use a condom.
Make sure he moves with what you are comfortable with too.
Don't have sex just for the sake of it either.
2006-08-21 02:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had sex for the first time at 15 and i regretted it, don't do it unless your with somebody that you really care about and that really cares about you. if you are with that somebody then you need to be open with him and let him know that you are still a virgin and ask him to be gentle until you get use to it. but i would honestly say to wait because it's not all that it's cracked up to be.
2006-08-21 01:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jaye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a normal thing it will not hurt u much.every girl is tight when she is enjoying first time.well u can use some lubricant at the time of sex
2006-08-20 23:26:33 · answer #9 · answered by Deepak S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try masterbating with your self first, so atelast it won't be a total tightness. It might help you control yourself. Or what you can also do is get him to start by fingering or toungue work
2006-08-20 23:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by 0_0 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋