i been together with my daughters father for 14 years and i have forgave him for alot of things he has done to me. he cheated on me and got a diease, he would hit me, now after all these years he tells me that i make him sick and he can't stand looking at me. five years ago we got married and it got worse. he would push me away and tell me things that would hurt me.
2006-08-20 23:17:07 · 13 answers · asked by huera_317 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You haven't mentioned a single reason as to why you should stay with him. It's never to late to leave. The guy is a bum. Get rid of him.
2006-08-20 23:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by Ray 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you? Some kind of masochistic, self-loathing person that needs to be punished all of the time and made a fool of? Do you like being humiliated and cheated on? You must...or you wouldn't even have stuck around all of those years. You must think you deserve this sort of treatment. Good God, woman! Have some self respect and dignity. Move on! The man is doing you a favor! He's not worth it. Get going while you can!
2006-08-20 23:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not saying that you shouldn't leave him, because I think you should, but, let's get inside his head for a moment. He has cheated on you and brought home a disease and he treats you like you have done something wrong. Okay, my opinion, he is guilty as hell. Deep down he knows he has wronged you and he doesn't feel like he is worth forgiving, so, he pushes you away to make it feel like it's your call. Either that or he is in love with another woman. Either way, he wants you gone. So, unless he is going to agree to counseling, then you should leave. You can't live like that for the rest of your life. And if it isn't guilt on his part, I am a firm believer that what comes around goes around and in time, he will get his without your help. God bless you, I wish you the best.
2006-08-20 23:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage isn't the answer to a bad situation. Look at it this way... you were great before he was in your life. You'll be great after he's out. He doesn't seem to respect you. Putting yourself through that crap sends a really bad message to your children. Do the following...
1. Go to the bank and withdraw everything but one dollar.
2. Get an apartment with the money.
3. Remove his access to your financial information.
3. File for divorce.
Good Luck!
2006-08-20 23:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by OldyMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all relax and give a thought as to what has made your husband behave this way. Sometimes there may be small chages or compromises that we have to make to keep our life going. If you think you cannot speak with him and make him talk openly with you, take the help of some of your relatives or friends. Otherwise, you can take the help of marital counselling. I know it would be difficult for you to make your partner come with you, but still it is worth the effort.
Incase, he still does not come, you can go by yourself and explain your situation to a counsellor who can definitely help you in some way.
2006-08-20 23:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by its_anoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're brave enough to leave him, do it now why you still have respect to yourself. You did your part as his wife, forgave him several times and now as if you're the one you made mistakes. noone deserve that kind of treatment, better get out of his life if you can, get a life for yourself and for your daughter. Good luck
2006-08-20 23:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by jewel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear you need to get out of that relationship now he has used you not to mention abused you you and your daughter need to get out of that voltile situation now!!! if you have family friend go there or the womens shelter. you did not sign on to be hit yelled out etc. once you and your daughter are safe i know the womens shelter can help you find a job (plus train) and help you find living assistance for you and your daughter!!! god bless!!
2006-08-20 23:32:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day at a time. One step at a time. It does get easier. I'm sorry for the pain you are feeling today. This too shall pass. Keep up your strength.
Love, ~The Fat Lady
2006-08-20 23:22:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you hate yourself. Why do you take this abuse? Why do you care about what he thinks when he's been so rotten to you. You've got to focus on the things about yourself that you like, and if you don't like yourself, you've got to work on that, now. No one deserves to be a mans punching bag. You've got to treat yourself like royalty...don't ya know!?! :)
2006-08-20 23:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the way it sounds is you need to move on in ur life because you can do so much better than that.. no woman deserves all that no one deserves that!!!!!!
2006-08-20 23:39:20 · answer #10 · answered by angie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋