My wife and I have decided to try for a child and...?

Question

I just wanted to ask actual parents if you have any tips or info that you wish you had yourself and only learned by having a child.

My wife and I have been all over the internet reading about the do's and don'ts...but those are mostly from professionals.

We're looking for info from the field...lol Thanks.

Answer 1

Having a child is like nothing else. You may find yourself staring at this baby for what seems like a few minutes but yet you feel like you can stare for hours. You will want to freeze the moment. Everytime I get see my daughter at a specific stage I get all sad and emotional because I feel like she is growing up too fast. And the truth is she. You don't realize how fast time goes until you have a child. But know that there is an exciting thing about every stage. I can't tell you how many times I have this "okay this is now my favorite stage" Things just keep getting better. My daughter just turned 1. I can't wait to see what else is down the road but at the same time I am just letting myself enjoy these times that don't last long.

If money is an issue than don't be afraid to save money by taking hand me downs or buying second hand. You also don't need many toys out there. Your baby will learn most from you. Sometimes all you need is a tupperwear bowl and a wooden spoon to occupy your little one for hours. They won't be in the clothes long and the toys either. Save your money on them and put it away for a rainy day. There will be a time where you want to take your first trip to Disney or someplace.

Don't get caught up in the "how tos or the never dos" Go with what you feel in your heart to be right. If you worry too much about your child getting sick or you limit yourself you will miss out. There are too many theories out there that say don't ever do this....well you know what we all survived. They will too!

I have learned that nothing else matters when you have a child in your arms. The world could be falling apart and when you see this child look at you and smile for the first time there is no other experience like it. Baseball games, football, shoppping, all become secondary. That's okay! But do remember to take a night every other week to spend with each of you. That's very important

You will want to savor every moment you possibily can. Keep a journal of those precious moments. You may think you will remember them but you really won't. Remember it's not the big moments that you will treasure it's those unexpected moments that you will cherish most.

Congrats on making the decision to try for a child. You sound like a loving couple who will give much love and support to a very lucky child.

Answer 2

When I was pregnant with my first child I bought the book What to expect when you're expecting. It was a great book and so right on the mark! I advise it for all to-be-parents. I'm currently working on having my second child (not yet conceived) but I have learned to 1) Spend as much time as you can with your child 2) Listen on their level and respond to their level 3) Give lots of hugs and kisses 4) hold their hand 5) guide them when they reach out to you 6) Do not smother 7) Let them learn in their own way - all the mistakes they'll make are a learning experience for them - not for you. 8) They go fast so enjoy and watch every moment! Good Luck!

Answer 3

Make the most of every age they grow up so fast. Give lot's of hugs and kisses. Tell them many times a day how loved they are.Compliment them many times a day ie. gee your playing nicely, you are such a good drawer etc. No matter what the age go tuck them in it is a good time to hear if anything is worrying them.
Don't feel any guilt if you can't breastfeed. Best is whatever way works. Never go to bed without making peace. Keep your adult relationship going don't let the kids take over (go out once a month as a couple without kids)
Good luck in your new life as parents

Answer 4

Having a child turns your world upside-down in the most wonderful ways possible! You will have realized you love your spouse, or your family members, but it is nothing compared to the deep-down abiding love you will have for your child. Even if you have never before considered yourself selfish, you will find you would give up anything for a child. The biggest tip I can give you is to enjoy the months from birth to one the most - at every age, there are good things, but there is nothing like a little baby! They change so much every week from birth - make sure you make time to notice and love every little thing.

Answer 5

Remember that cranky is sometimes tired and frazzled, not actually mad at each other. Always carry a disposable camera in your glove box, not for an accident, but in case you ever need to take pictures of your kid and forgot the good camera at home. Remember that it might be messy, but they are only little once. Sometimes copying your child and making silly noises or jumping on 1 foot through the entire store is worth it to your child, even if strangers look at you wierd. Make sure to say I Love You daily, kids need to hear that. And let your kid be their own person. Don't force them into an activity just because you loved it as a kid or missed out on doing it. Kids might be little, but their brains work just fine.

Answer 6

David, to get pregnant you must have sex on a day that her eggs are being released.

After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into her mouth and check her body temperature every morning before she start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. You must ejaculate on your inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.

After having sex she must stay in bed for about 30 mins with her knees bent up with a pillow under her buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.

You must save your sperms in the testacles for at least 3 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.

Answer 7

Every book say's something different.....throw them away. Love your child, and it'll all just fall into place. :-)

Answer 8

just do your best no one is perfect and enjoy your alone time while you have it good luck