I sometimes feel jealous about other people who are better than me?

Question

for instance, people who have a better life than me, I always want to get want others have. Am I a bad hearted person? I know it but I just can't stop thinking about it. When I see my friends having something new or expensive, I feel envy and wish I would afford to have those things. I even tell lies to my friends, even my very best friend who trust me with all his heart. I always think of myself as a failure. Also, I am always forced to do something I don't like by my parents. They never understand me enough and I never tell them about my thoughts. I sometimes wish I had been put to an orphange and someone rich and nice might have adopted me and I wouldn't had have to tell lies to anyone to get what I want or felt jelous about others.

Answer 1

you know what? bullshit!...you aren't forced to tell lies...you tell them because you want to tell them. You don't dislike these things about yourself either...if you did, you'd change them...getting jealous over something someone else has is just plain stupid!...if you want it...get off your *** and get out there..work for what you want...stop expecting things to be handed to you...this is life...get used to it...or go without..

Answer 2

You're not a bad person or anything like that. Stop telling your very best friend lies though. I can understand how you feel because I have felt that way too before. Just look at it like this- these things will make you want to work hard and get what you what. You just gotta have the motivation. And it is a kickass feeling when you get something and you know you have done it all on your own.

Answer 3

Don't feel jealous. Just because other people have things doesn't mean they are happy. Being happy isn't about how many nice things you have. It's more about how you feel about yourself. Find a hobby or volunteer some time to help others and you'll start feeling better about yourself. Get the best education you can so you too can afford to buy the things you covet so much. Remember though, that won't necessarily make you happy.

Everyone goes through a period where they don't like their parents, but when it comes down to tough times, they are there for you when you need them most.

Answer 4

It is only natural, but don't let it become an obsession. You know, after you become older, you will see things differently. Success is not in material things, sure they might make you feel important, but down the line, they don't give real happiness. It is only temporary. When you get older, you will have other things, lIke a family, children, to just look into their little faces, and you will feel like you have a million dollars. Give God a chance, and he can help you overcome your possible inferior complex. You are a great person, and stop the lies. Don't go lying to people, it will just catch up with you and your friends will find out and not like you. You already are feeling ike you are a bad guy. Pump yourself up, and start doing good things, especially for others, that is a good way to be. Just get out of yourself, and think about others for a change. Good luck.

Answer 5

Your value system is non-existent and you seem to rationalize your bad behavior and emotions by blaming others for causing them in the first place. You are so misunderstood so that justifies your deviant behavior and your stupid petty jealousy, what a crock of ****! You do what you do because of YOU, your parents should have given you away because your a disgrace to them and yourself. Your a manipulating, calculating, sociopathic idiot. No one can make you feel like a failure unless YOU allow them the ability. You use that bull crap as an excuse to lie, cheat and steal, but you already know that. What is it about you that makes you so deserving of anything? What did you do that gives you the right to **** on everyone because your such a fu -king failure. EXCUSES ARE LIKE ASSHOLE, your about the biggest one I've had the pleasure of reading, GROW UP AND STOP BEING SUCH A LOOO OOO SSSERRR!

Answer 6

Wow!! I've been there before.

I've felt the same way and others have too.

Try not to feel bad about wanting what others have, it's only natural to want what you don't have. You don't have to feel like a failure. Make something of your life now and don't let the lack of understanding at home stop you.

You don't have to lie to get what you want. You have to be patient and it will come to you without the guilt.

Answer 7

This is another good reason to check out a Christian church. You need Jesus in your life. Material things will never make you happy...because other people will always have something better and more beautiful. You only have this life here on earth. Live it wisely. Be thankful for what you have. You have ears...mouth, eyes, hands...and legs? Use them to serve others....you are not the center of the universe. "Give and you shall receive."...not necessarily things, but happiness and a more peaceful and contented life.

Answer 8

The reason you feel jealous is because you consider their lives to be better than yours in the first place. It's all in you mind, if you tell yourself that your life is no worse than theirs, it wont be. Just make your life what you want it to be and stop worrying about how you compare to other people, there's always going to be someone who you think is better than you, so its best just to make yourself happy.

Answer 9

You think that those ppl are better than you...but you think wrong!!!!!!!!!! Let your wants for the things they already have be the motivation you use to drive yourself into a good education and to a good paying job....the things you need if you're to ever have those things yourself

Answer 10

Its normal as a human being turn it in a positive way have a good result.