2006-08-20 22:13:16 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are not ready then you just have to be honest and let him know, he will understand. If you get married before you are truly ready it is unfair to you and him.
2006-08-20 22:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by mrharderson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u are not ready for marriage u should be honest tell him that u are not ready for marriage communicate with ur boyfriend/fiance and let him know how u will feel. Do not lead him on because u will end up hurting him do not put it off the sooner the better
u should not get married if u are not 100% sure any way if there is doubt in your head postpone it or dont get married until u are ready
he will repect u if he really loves u and understand honest and communication tell him u are not ready do not put it off
2006-08-21 00:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you a little secret about marriage. Do it only when you r very very very very Ready. Relationships and marriage are very different. Marriage is more about sacrifice especially on the woman's side than is in a relationship. Staying with somneone is not all rossy as it look. Get ready for all the challenges then you will be happy in marriage. Please take all the time you need to make your decision. Good luck.
2006-08-20 22:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your fiancee' a HUGE favor and tell him now! It's easy..."dear, I've been thinking about our marriage and I'm just not ready. I would be doing you a huge disservice if I married you out of guilt." Then, BREAK IT OFF...and let him find someone who is ready for marriage. You may not be the "marrying" kind. When in doubt, DON'T !!
2006-08-20 23:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tel him that you are not wanting to be married right now, and his choices are to stay with you until you are (as he is the only one you want) or if he really needs to be married quickly then to find someone who also wants to be married quickly.
I find a lot of men tend to look at marriage as a reason to stop fearing that their partner may leave. Truth of it is, those people never ever stop being jealous and/or possessive.
You need to take control of this situation yourself right now. Otherwise you will find that you will spend your life not as a team working together but as the lower part of a decision making relationship.
Be strong.
2006-08-20 22:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be true to him. Tell him how you really feel. It is better to break his heart now than to break a marriage/family in the future. If he really loves you he'll understand and will admire you for making that decision now, rather than go on and marry him with out loving him.
Good luck!
2006-08-20 22:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by metztli99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell him... you can always use the word 'yet' if you think it might change.
Marriage is not what everyone wants - I know people who have been together for 10+ years - very happy and do not feel the need to get married.
2006-08-20 22:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by srohan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest and tell him exactly how you feel. Be upfront. If it were the other way around, think about how you would like to be told. I believe honesty and communication are the best policies. Tell him your fears. You sound like you have been with him long enough to be able to open up. Best wishes to you.
2006-08-20 22:20:55 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you are not ready for a comittment at this time. Be ready for him to look elsewhere though.
2006-08-20 22:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you don't feel ready to get married as you want to sleep around a bit more first
2006-08-20 22:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋