How to deal with bullies?

Question

There r this two boys and one girl who devote ther time to make my life misilbe to the point that I don't want to go to school but I have to but I don't know what to do when they start joking and everything

What should I do

I can't fight so they will pobally beat me

Answer 1

Here's a nice website with suggestions on how to handle bullies:
http://kidshealth.org/kid/feeling/emotion/bullies.html

When I was bullied in high school, I tried to find the bully's insecurity and play on that. For example, there was a really tough girl who looked somewhat masculine, and when she picked on me one day, I mentioned that at least I was feminine, while she looked like a boy, etc. She never bothered me again.

Another approach I tried is to kill them with kindness. There was one bully, and she was a big Harrison Ford fan. I was also a big fan, but one day I decided to get rid of all my fan stuff -- and I gave it to her. She actually became my friend after that.

Anyway, try the website. It seems like a good one.
Good luck!

Answer 2

I know this sounds lame, but tell an adult at school -- like the principal/ teacher/ or counselor.

Then if they don't do anything about it, you may have to defend yourself. Just don't be the one to start something physical or you will get in trouble and they won't.

They do this because it gets a reaction from you. Stop reacting and they will find someone else to pick on. I know that's a hard thing to do but really practice ignoring them. Stay as far away from them as you can. If you have class with them, ask to have your schedule changed and tell the person who does schedules why you want it changed.

Hope this helps some!!! I too was bullied in school and it is not fun. Recently the guy who did the most bullying came up to me at a football game (40 years later!!!) and hugged me. It made me so sick, I puked on him. No kidding, for real that's what I did. Talk about revenge!

Answer 3

Samantha, I had to deal with bullies (the physically violent kind) when i was a kid. Believe it or not, everyone gets out of it alive. If you can, transfer classes. Do not reward their behavior- by this, I mean, if they are trying to make you scared, don't show it. Ask your parents if you can take a martial arts class if they are physical bullies. If they are verbal or emotional bullies, spend as little time as possible with them, and act bored at their stupid jokes. When you see people like them in the future, confront it immediately. You're going to have a happy life later, believe me. I'm a very big muscular guy now, and nobody even looks sideways at me. Better days are coming.

Answer 4

Find out everything embarrassing and stupid that they have done and use it against them. Things like when they talk smack about others, their weaknesses in education, lack of fair play, nasty tricks that they have thought that they have gotten away with in the past, etc. These idiots seem over confident and as such they will brag about their self empowering escapades. Talk to people that they have burned before or are messing with now. Get together with those that they have burned and gather intelligence and tape and film their sorry a**es when possible for irrefutable proof of their bullsh*t. Play the video during a school assembly or something public of that nature. It is possible and has been done before. Good luck with that!

Answer 5

You can ignore them and hope they go away. Tell your teacher or Principal. Or do what I'd do when it got to the point where I'm just miserable. Hit the girl as hard as you can in the face as quickly and as many times as you can(guranteed) I figure you can't fight or you wouldn't ask the question, one day on the way home from school on the bus, I pinched this girls butt as she was getting off she wheeled around and and hit me with her purse. My head was bleeding soon after (turns out she had lava rocks in there for show-n-tell day) i never bothered her again!

Answer 6

The best thing you can do is to ignore them...this way they'll see that they're wasting their time hurting you!! I was also bullied and I just started ignoring the bullies...they then too stopped!! When they say something or call you or whatever...just take one uninterested look at them and go back to doing what you were doing!! Just try not to listen to what they say...it can be difficult,but you can do it!!

Hope it works out fine for you!!

Answer 7

It's not easy but you have to stand up to them...that doesn't mean escalating the problem but doing nothing or running away makes things worse. Be smart about it, stand up for yourself, and stand firm by what you do. I'm sure others are watching and if you handle yourself well you'll earn respect from them (and more importantly yourself). Don't play their game on their terms, set the tone yourself and know when to engage and when to walk away without care.

Answer 8

tell the teacher, principal and your parents. talk to the school counsellor. Take notes of what they did to you, time etc,. as proof. If it becomes violent intimidation, you have the right to get the police to file a restaining order against them.

Whatever you do, don't beat them up (ignore those type of answers) because it will just get you into trouble - anyway violence doesn't solve anything.

Answer 9

let me say on there behalf that im sorry noone should treat someone like that .............but one sure way to end it that i know of is one good punch in the nose and from that point on they'll forget about making fun of you and start thinking how they can avoid you or make you there friend

Answer 10

just get through it and when you are older youll look back and remember what losers they were and be glad that you were never like them and you are a much better person than them.