what is better, to be with someone who you love but does not love you, or to be with someone that you don't love but who loves you?
2006-08-20 21:49:07 · 16 answers · asked by E H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
suppose if i'm staying with the one who loves me i'll fall in love too, also, if i'm staying with the one who doesn't love me, i can make her love me -- so in both cases, let's say each one will love the other -- the question remains, what's better? stay with the one who doesn't love me and fight to get her love, or stay with the one who loves me, and wait till i'm falling in love too?
2006-08-21 00:20:15 · update #1
Both aren't good choices. Wait for a better one.
2006-08-20 21:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by I dunno wad to do.. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll never be truly happy either one. If you dont love the one your with you will always be dreaming of someone else. And if the one your with doesnt love you... you'll just be miserable. Have patience and wait for one who you love and who will love you just as much. Then when you find that person, dont destroy it over stupid things. Too many ppl give up when things get a little rough.
Good luck to you.
2006-08-21 05:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by CC 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both are not the right answer. Find someone you love who loves you. If you go with the one who you love, you will suffer because you'll only try to make them love you, which you can't and if you go with the one that loves you, you will be making them suffer trying to get you to love them. You will find someone who loves you and that you love, life never turns out the way you thought it would, just be patient.
2006-08-21 04:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by UmmFaisal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just got out of a relationship just like that. I love her but she didn't love me. It ended up her coming home after 4 years of marriage and saying "Honey, I found someone new. Take our son and hit the road." So if you get with someone you don't love, you'll eventually do this to them. If you get with someone who doesn't love you, they'll do this to you. Find someone you love who loves you back or you are only in for a world of pain like you can not imagine.
2006-08-21 04:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by tuner1981 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither, either way you are unhappy. If you love someone and they don't feel the same you are miserable. If I am with someone who loves me and I can not return the feeling I feel guilty for not being able to return the gesture plus irritated with the person who you know is gonna be all up your butt at all times. Not worth either one. It's better to be alone then miserable with someone.
2006-08-21 04:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by X's Mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of those situations are difficult to live with.
If you love someone and they do not love you back then you might end up feeling angry and resentful and insignificant.
If the other person loves you and you do not love them back then it is a bad thing to do to them because it will hurt their self worth.
EVERYBODY DESERVES TO LOVE AND BE LOVED.
I have to wonder why these are the only kind of love situations that you see. There is more.
2006-08-21 05:14:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. I wouldn't choose either of those. Both of them are painful for someone and I'm not selfish enough to choose the latter. Better for two people to love each other than someone to experience a loveless union.
2006-08-21 04:55:14 · answer #7 · answered by Hidden .38 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say neither. Wait and the right one will come along. I am still waiting. There is nothing wrong with being friends. Who knows maybe there is potential for the friend. They say you need to be friends first anyway. Be patient and enjoy your life along the way.
2006-08-21 04:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be with someone who loves me but i dont love rather then me love someone who dont love me sounds bad but if i had to pick thats how id do it!
2006-08-21 05:04:30 · answer #9 · answered by blondie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would rather be with someone who loves me at least i know i'm with someone who cares about me yah know what i'm saying it is so nice to be loved
2006-08-21 04:56:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋