2006-08-20 21:19:47 · 25 answers · asked by kpnatnaej 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
forgiveness is divine. even God expects u to forgive her.
but remember that the bond of friendship is love.
and 2 cant walk together except they agree,
so if her life doesn't suit ur lifesyle,
give a distance to this friend.
2006-08-20 21:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by lifejourney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they say you should forgive a person infinitely many times but I know how hard that is. My ex-(?)best friend has majorly hurt me in the same way twice. The first time it was easy to forgive her especially when she rectified the situation but the second time... well, I'm still going through that phase. You'd think they'd learn but, hey, we're only human and nobody learns the lesson after the first mistake.
I guess it depends a lot on what the betrayal was and whether your best friend is truly sorry about it and whether she tries to fix it each time or not. Whether you forgive her or not is up to you and you shouldn't let anyone else determine that for you. If you don't forgive her, you probably won't be friends anymore. If you do, you have to learn to expect these betrayals so you won't be hurt time and time again. Maybe you won't be so close to her anymore because of it but you'll still have a friend.
If you're the type of person who can't stand being around someone like that, however, then I guess you'll just have to forget her and move on. It might take a while but you'll find other friends who won't betray you and you'll probably realise that she wasn't such a great friend after all.
No matter what you do, though, don't hold a grudge against her all your life. Here's a thought: everyone expects you to forgive her but they didn't say anything about still being friends with her, did they?
2006-08-20 21:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sindri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her. When people expect you to forgive her, tell them that you've forgiven her enough and you don't want to be betrayed again. If you get a guilt trip, it really is her own stupid fault. She's the one who betrayed you (multiple times), she deserves to feel guilty and lose you as a friend.
You don't need friends who betray you, there's enough jerks in the world who will try to do it already.
2006-08-20 21:26:46 · answer #3 · answered by 006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still consider that person a friend? Just forgive and then forget her and move on. Still be nice to the girl, but do not share confidences with her again, and for sure do not trust her as far as you can throw her.
2006-08-20 21:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by kimberly b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I forgive my boyfriend when he betrays me but I repent everytime and i say it's the last time i forgive him but next time it's the same! So i think after a while it'll being not important and u'll use to it and forget her after a while...
2006-08-20 22:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by marjan m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive her but be more careful next time.. i've been in your situation.. be friends with her but don't even let her get a foothold to betray you again.. yeah, it hurts.. make her know that she's got to earn your trust from the beginning again.. if you're someone who gets hurt easily, forgive her, move on, don't get too close with her..
2006-08-20 22:31:49 · answer #6 · answered by bluey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you wanna do.And the hell with everyone else.I deal with this too.My aunt started doing some serious drugs and abandoned her children.But all of my family feels sorry for her.I don't like her.I think she is a nut so I don't care if my family gets mad I will
slap that ***** if she comes near me or my son.
So regardless of what anyone else wants of
you,if your friend seems to sh!t on you over and over again,tell her you are finished putting up
with his or her crap.And you will have done what is best for you.
2006-08-20 21:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore everyones expectations and think it over...you can forgive her but you might just not trust her anymore...because forgiveness is hard but gaining trust is harder to earn and easy to break, tell your friend you are upset at her actions and forgive her but you have to think that if you can give your trust..
2006-08-20 21:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your fault that you are being betrayed be a person again and again. Is first time betraying not sufficient for you to understand him/ her?
2006-08-20 21:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I accept the fact i've been an enabler and try to move on.
Your friends behavior has never varied, it's who she is. Not accepting that fact isn't her problem, it's yours. She won't change and you can never 'win' this game. Forgive everything that's happened up til now (you saw it coming, you did nothing, that's enabling), then don't talk to her anymore. Period.
It's difficult, but it'll work.
2006-08-20 21:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by Smarticus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋