My best friend and I fought about one of the men we work with we both like him but my friend didn't think I was good enough for him so I asked him on a date and he said yes. My friend found out and didn't talk to me the next day at work and she said that just because she liked him I couldn't have him. Should I take the man or my friend even though the man is more of a friend to me than my friend?
2006-08-20 20:23:33 · 10 answers · asked by jessica chic_soccer_art klatzke 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell ur friend too stop whining u proved her wrong by getting him and the least she should be is happy for you's and of course i would to chat with you
2006-08-20 20:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by teenchatter10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very bad when best friends like the same guy. No matter who he ends up with, you're both going to lose. Moral of the story: Guys are not worth fighting over because they can rip the closest of friends apart.
However, best friend or not, no one has the right to tell you that you can't have something just because they can't have something. I bet your best friend wouldn't have had any qualms about going out with him even though you liked him.
Your best friend is definitely jealous and most likely stung that he seems to prefer you over her but hopefully she will get past it and learn to be happy for you both. She'll probably find some other guy to get hung over about sooner or later and then you'll have no problems whatsoever.
Usually I'd say that friends last longer than boyfriends but her quarrel with you is over something stupid ie. jealousy and you shouldn't have to choose between him or her. She should be supportive of you.
Of course, it may not even work out with this guy so if you do decide to make a choice and you choose him over her then, if you break up with the guy, you'll have lost two relationships - hers and his.
On the other hand, maybe she didn't ask him out first because she knew you liked him too and so the fact that you didn't do the same was like a betrayal to her.
I think you should sort things out with her though, find out the real reason she's upset with you, and make her see sense about being a best friend if possible.
2006-08-20 21:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by Sindri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who means more to you - the guy or your friend.
You knew she liked him when you asked him out. If the two of you agree that it was "every man for himself" in this situation that would have been one thing. If it was "established" that she liked him first that's another. If it was "established" that you were the first one to do "dibbs" on him that's something else again.
I can't help but wonder if either of you couldn't just go elsewhere to find dates, in view of the fact that all three of you are working in the same place.
Part of me says its too bad for your friend. You asked him out, and he went. Part of me says you and he aren't her business. Part of me, however, thinks you both should have waited to see if he asked either of you out.
It sounds to me like you've already decided that this guy is a better friend to you than your friend. You want everyone on here to say, "Oh. Choose the guy over that awful friend of yours."?
At this point it sounds like you made your decision by asking him out. I wouldn't be too sure, though, that any dating relationship you have with him will last very long because since he didn't do the asking its very possible he'd accept a date with other girls as well.
If its true she didn't think you're good enough for this guy then maybe she doesn't think much of you, and maybe you should re-think how much of a friend she really is.
You know what will probably happen? Someone in this little trio is going to leave their job, and your dilemma will be solved. It is very unlikely that all three of you will remain there, and it is probably unlikely that any of the three of you will remain friends. I guess my answer is to do what you must do and realize it is unlikely to be a long-term thing under the circumstances.
2006-08-20 20:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welli dont see how she can be the judge on choosing whether you get to see or not see the guy. I Think you should take the guy out i mean your friend is just jealous right now and is probably why shes not speaking with you
2006-08-20 20:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all shes just jealous that u got him first and tell her that why do we have to fight over the same person when you could get plenty of other men make her fell good at the same time you get the guy and she has a friend back
2006-08-20 20:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by olac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your "friend" is acting like a *****....do not let her come between you and this guy, if she's a real friend, she'll knock it off, if not, good riddance. By the way, what the hell is up with her thinking you aren't good enough for him....she's sheisty!
2006-08-20 20:55:26 · answer #6 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you both can learn early that there is no guy worth breaking up a friendship for. Guys come and go but your friends will always be there.
2006-08-20 20:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my girlfriend of over 5 years left me and moved out sunday. We speak still, but I can't sleep
2006-08-20 20:38:24 · answer #8 · answered by palon1957 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk about it...let the man choose ...dont make any move..both of you..let him do the first then respect who will be chosen..ano to,beauty pageant??!!!!
2006-08-20 20:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know shes your friend...but well...if u think u are better with him..
then never mind about your friend.....explain to her later...=l
2006-08-20 20:35:28 · answer #10 · answered by cutiegal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋