He does n't know my situation but he knows me. i love my husband and family. but i could not forget about this one.
2006-08-20 20:18:29 · 14 answers · asked by Didi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you REALLY loved your husband & your family, like you CLAIM, you wouldn't be in love w/this other guy.
What you are feeling is lust, which is probably stimming from a rough, boring patch that you are going through in your marriage.
You & your husband need to seek out some kind of couples counseling to help resolve this issues that are causing you to seek out other men.
Best of luck to you!
2006-08-20 20:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Wild Rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...Well, I think you should ask yourself-what you mean when you say: "You are in love with the 29 year old man". Since you have strong feelings for him, is it still possible to be just friends with him and have that type of relationship? Love is powerful and amazing. I'd hate to see you surpress your feelings for this man, though at the same time you have to think about the wonderful family that you already have. Can you have the best of both worlds? Not entirely. Yet, can you maintain a good relationship with the 29 year old-perhaps friendship? Yes, I think you can.
I hope things work out for you. Remember- love is good and if you genuinely love this man, then I hope you can maintain some type of friendship with him. But remmeber the love you have for your husband and children as well.
Best of luck.
2006-08-21 03:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by dragonalex27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound so much like another married mother who posted a question here. I wonder if you're the same one.
Stop thinking about the other man. Stop talking to him 100%. Stop seeing him. Stop going where he is. Stop fantasizing or dreaming or wishing or hoping. You are being incredibly selfish right now, thinking of your own lustful desires instead of your children and husband and the sacred vows you've made with him and for your children.
You are NOT in love with your husband. You are cheating on him. You need to FORGET this other bimbo and start serving your husband and children and then maybe you'll get out of your own little box and start REALLY loving your spouse!! Please think about what you are doing; the consequences are too grave. You will destroy your children. You will destroy your husband. You will destroy yourlelf; your image, your security, your morals (if you have any).
Go read "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr Laura and then "Woman Power" by Dr Laura. Highly recommended.
Unless you want to lose everything you've worked for, including the happiness and normality and trust of your children, then go ahead with this selfish and evil affair.
2006-08-21 03:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age doesn't really matter. Fact is, you shouldn't even think about him. You are a mother now...not a wannabe love sick teenager...or maybe you are? Be reasonable for your kids' sake. Remember, as a mother- you are not only cheating on your husband, but also on your kids. Trust must be earned. What you are doing is the opposite of earning trust. You know this...otherwise you wouldn't bother asking people's opinion here. You are way over your head on this one....because you are also fooling your lover...as you said- he doesn't know your situation.
2006-08-21 03:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor lady, I understand your feelings very well. In fact I have gone through before exactly like yours but on the opposite gender. Now we have our own obligations even though we love each other very much. Being together is never going to be the solution and we both know very well. We already belonged to someone else. What we can do is pray for next life we could be together. My advice is you think of your family first and then pray for next life.
2006-08-21 03:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by Rod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure you love this 29 year old or do you just love the sex because your husband is not doing it for you. Think of the children and how many people you will hurt control your urges.
2006-08-24 15:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on Lady........this man doesn't even know how you feel???????? why give up a good marriage when it only takes a lil bit of time to spice it up if that's what you need! You know that saying, "The grass is always greener on the other side."?
IT"S A LIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-21 03:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jaded 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I will guarentee that the divorce will go as well as you think it will with your husband or the kids but hey it is your happiness right
2006-08-21 09:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by Shaboomshaboom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your husband, you will forget about this one soon.
2006-08-21 03:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Book a hotel room near his house, go there and meet your lover for dinner, then spend a night of passion together.
2006-08-21 03:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋