i have a siter-in-law that is not married and she calls my husband every day and ask him to come over and i work 12 hour night shifts so i am not home that often she comes over when i am gone or invites him over when i am at work she lives with her mother which is step siblings they are step kin his father died two years ago and asked my husband to take care of his stepmother well his step sister moved in and we only live one minute away. i feel that when i am home he should spend time with me and our children but he goes over there all the time she hates me and is nice to me in front of my husband but talks about me behind my back she is almost 40 and i am 26 she treats me like i know nothing and is always in my business i have went to my husband he does not care he told me to tell her like it was to not be scared of her he thinks iam jealous of her but she is always around i want to spend time with my husband not his family i want him to know that his responsibilities are at home
2006-08-20 19:35:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yep u married a mommas boy !!! the only way to fix that is a divorce
2006-08-20 19:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may be lonely and jealous of u cos u r young and her bro loves u and u have yr own family. Dont complain abt her 2 yr husband cos it will only cause a rift bet u. Y dont u change yr attitude and be nice 2 her, include her in yr family life ask 4 her help 2 look after yr house. Treat her with respect and like a sister . Listen 2 her advice does not mean u have 2 follow them only do so when u feel it is right. No harm 2 have another opinion .If i were u i will take advantage of her and be extra nice 2 her and invite her over often 2 help in the house. At least u gain a free maid. Yr house will be clean when u come home fr work and maybe dinner also. Yr husband will appreciate u more if u r nice 2 his sis and he wont feel guilty becos he has an obligation 2 u and also has 2 fulfill his father's wishes. Good luck be nice and God will guide u .
2006-08-20 19:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by lynnbtohs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better get it straightened out now...the longer it goes on the worse it will get. Make it clear that you married your husband, not his family. If he continues to spend all of his time there while you are at home...turn it on him by going out with friends, visiting your family, go shopping, etc. Once he sees you're no longer going to sit home alone, he may spend more time there with you.
2006-08-20 20:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time you are over there....swirl her toothbrush in the toilet bowl after you pee.....it's not gonna solve anything.....but you're gonna feel a whole lot better!!
Seriously, if you want to be subtle....ask him and plan for him to do things well in advance and keep him busy at home or with you.
If you want to be direct, tell him what you have told us.
Good luck!
2006-08-20 20:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by Tony 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TAlk to her. Tell her to buzz off. Show her your maturity and that you know what you can tolerate and what you can't. Talk to your husband and tell him you want things to be different. You husband need to side you and listen to you, otherwise things won't change.
If possible move away.
Show him this page and all our answers.
2006-08-21 05:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell sister-in-law to step the f** h off . do not be nice about it . some people need to be told were the bear sh*it.. I had the same problem , but once I told her like it is , she learned real fast to shut her mouth and I have had no problems scents . as far as your husband you need to tell him straight up how you feel .
2006-08-21 04:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by blueflowerscs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 06:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her run over you, stand your ground. With regards to your husband, try to have another talk with him, but try to stay calm and give him the facts with specific examples. Ideally he needs to support you.
2006-08-20 19:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by Jasmine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them to leave and get out of your home that you don't need them to run over you like that
2006-08-24 15:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by Forsaken Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-20 19:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋