My boyfriend has taken away all my friends, my family, and my right to make my own decisions. Hes taken away my dignity and love for life. Im scared that if i dont break off the relationship it will turn into abuse. Im scared to tell him its over, he scares me when he yells, and i dont want to be left alone. Im only 15, i dont know how to deal with this, and i have no one else to run to for help. Can anyone at least give me advice on how to get rid of my fears, and him...please?
2006-08-20 19:31:02 · 12 answers · asked by kalen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
LEAVE HIM NOW... it's already an abusive relationship... no physically but emotionally but it could turn physical.. you need to get help... seek help from a local school or clinic... you're underage and you could still get out... go to the police if you have to....
2006-08-20 19:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by Brownie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it sounds like it is already abusive whether or not there's any physical harm going on right now. Second, maybe getting rid of your fears isn't what you should do. It is possible you should be afraid of what will happen if you break up with him.
Go to someone at school, or as someone else said, at a local church, or even go to a welfare agency. There are domestic violence agencies as well. Your local phone book may have a listing of such agencies at the front of the book.
Anyway, go to someone. Don't try to handle this alone. You are only 15 as you say. Someone older can give you guidance about getting out of the situation. Don't tell your boyfriend beforehand. Go to someone who is a trusted adult or agency. In a situation like this you don't have to "have someone" (know someone or have a relative you can talk to). Just ask someone at any school, church, welfare agency or agency who deals with domestic violence.
If the fears you were talking about are fear of being alone these people (once you get directed to the ones who can advise you) will help you get past those as well.
2006-08-20 19:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hiya i no how u feel my boyfriend is controlling and already hitting me and im only 17 so i dont really no what to say but the best thing to do especially if your scared of him is to dump him by text or phone then dont ring or text him or going anywhere you no he will be. Then dont answer his texts or phone calls and when he comes round tell your parents to say your not at home and i think it is also best you tell your parents they need to no and have a right to no i hope thats good enough advice if you need to talk my msn addy is christina_white16{@{hotmail.com
2006-08-20 20:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you need is the proper motivation you're 15, can you imagine your whole life being like this? while other teens and young adults are partying at college, you'll be at home, raising his kids, listening to him yell, having your kids watch him beat the crap out of you. If that isn't enough motivation to listen to him yell and rant and then dump his sorry a**, then i don't know what is...any man that isn't man enough to respect your mind and essence as a woman doesn't deserve to be with one. and if you can't stand up for yourself to let him know what you will and will not tolerate in terms of treatment, then it will continue and get worse, your choice. good luck!
2006-08-20 19:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by Yahooligan85 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him how you feel? He may not even be aware of his actions. If you can't communicate with him out of fear, then you definitely need to get away. At 15 you should still be under your parents' protection.
2006-08-21 06:47:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone, a parent/guardian, other relative, teacher, guidance counselor, a friend's parent, someone you trust. If all else fails, get a restraining order.
2006-08-20 19:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by CarolP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 15???? Tell your parents, call the police, get out of this relationship yesterday....
2006-08-20 19:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and learn that no means no and stalker means 911
2006-08-20 20:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by kirk_leblanc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move out of town
2006-08-20 20:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by acid tongue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parent's how you feel and I guarentee he will leave you alone.
2006-08-24 19:12:08 · answer #10 · answered by llilolme73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋