Please tell me as much as you can about Narcissist or Narcissism(Personality Disorder)Please don't tell me to read on the websites, I have been reading most of it, but I need to know the stories from the real people...please tell me as much as you can if you have or had relationship with them or if your friends have. thank you very much for all of your answers :-) Have a lovely day
2006-08-20 19:17:59 · 8 answers · asked by SERENE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think my ex was narcisstic (not sure if thats the right word but am sure you know what i mean), being with him destroyed me. This is really difficult for me to talk about as I have tried to just block out everything that happened in the past because it still hurts so much 22 months after we broke up.
We would fight and then he would make me believe that it was my fault, he would constantly seek approval on how he looked and acted but then be nasty about the way I dressed, acted or talked. He would often do things that were rediculous and acted very strangely at the time i just though well other people don't do that but it's not too bad.
I know now that to act in this way is by no means normal.
I think even though he seemed to love himself more than anything in the world he had very low self esteem and sometimes would break down in tears -- he would be crying about him not being a nice person, his anger, him being bullied at school and about him not being good enough for me.
He used to do things and say things that implyed he really wanted to hurt people (physically) and he would enjoy telling me about nasty things he was going to say and do to hurt people.
He would fly off the handle into crazy rages and attack doors and stuff. He seemed to enjoy controling me and even his mother.
He thought that he was the best thing since sliced bread and if I ever said anything that sounded like i doubted this 'fact' he would go crazy and tell me how rubbish I was.
He was very critical and hated my family although not my dad as I don't have much to do with him (by that I mean I only see him once or twice a month) he has threatened to kill my mum and sister. He once said that he would get rid of everyone that I loved so that I had nobody left to be with me.
He would get really mad with me for very silly things then cry about how sorry he was, i honestly loved him with all of my heart and it was heartbreaking watching him do this to himself. I really wanted to help him but I have finally realised that I can't, in actual fact I'm not sure anyone can.
Like I said we split up 22 months ago and I have only just stopped answering his calls, it been like he had an invisible string that kept me attached to him. Within the first month of our split I spent £250 on him and 'won' him back, he then dumped me again (the first time was the night of my grandads funeral) this was in the sept/oct timeafter that i only spoke to him occasionally until christmas when he started ringing every day I met up with him the day before New Years Eve and he ended up coming back to my place. Then the day after he told me he had a girlfriend but then he finished her too saying that he couldn't be with her while he still felt that way about me. In the Jan I moved closer to him so we could be friends then we had a big fall out and didnt talk for ages i think til the july but he still had this hold on me and i went back time and time again, he got a girlfriend across the street from me and admitted it was on purpose. I went back everytime he rang (about twice a month) and that doesn't do you any favours. I have had countless dates since him that have all ended because of him and his threats.
I have even left the country to get him out of my system, stupidly tho I emailed him to tell him how well i was doing but he was away and i had had to come home early so he read it around the same time that i came home and so it started again as soon as i came back until he got a girlfriend well really it was until i asked to see him rather than the other way round. he has text me once since mid june to appologise for some bad family news i have had but i have ignored him, and that was nearly 5 weeks ago. I am so proud of myself, its a small step but I am now moving in the right direction i think!
When I was with him it was like a constanstant state of confusion. I never knew what was going on, he would declare undying love for me then treat me really badly. Saying that it wasn't all the time other times he would treat me like a princess. I don't think I ever knew where I stood or what was going on even though I tried to convince myself that it was all fine.
Sorry if this has seemed like a load of rambling but it is the first time i have spoken about it at length since we broke up. I haven't even mentioned half the stuff but like i said its hard for me as i tend to block it all out.
xxx
2006-08-20 23:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-08-09 12:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-21 00:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Symptoms of Narcissist
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http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/traits.html
Iamoral/conscienceless ; authoritarian ;care only about appearances;
contemptuous; critical of others
cruel; disappointing gift-givers;don't recognize own feelings
envious and competitive; feel entitled; flirtatious or seductive
grandiose; ;hard to have a good time with; hate to live alone
hyper-sensitive to criticism ;impulsive ;lack sense of humor
naive; passive; pessimistic
religious; secretive ;self-contradictory...
2006-08-20 19:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by VJ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
something bad i think, like conceited, or self-centered person. in general it means "someone in love with themselves".
i think u meant like a metrosexual narcissist, so yeah its like as said below:-
A metrosexual is defined as a dandyish narcissist in love with not only himself, but also his urban lifestyle; a straight man who is in touch with his feminine side.
According to The Word Spy, Mark Simpson coined the term "metrosexual" in 1994, in an article in The Independent. His description of someone who is a metrosexual was printed on the internet's Salon.com. He wrote, "The typical metrosexual is a young man with money to spend, living in or within easy reach of a metropolis – because that's where all the best shops, clubs, gyms and hairdressers are. He might be officially gay, straight or bisexual, but this is utterly immaterial because he has clearly taken himself as his own love object and pleasure as his sexual preference." – Mark Simpson, "Meet the metrosexual," Salon.com, July 22, 2002
2006-08-20 19:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by mike 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
reading all this stuff i came to a conclusion that im the one. so if u have any questions about narcissism feel free to ask me when im available on yahoo messenger. (weel, except that im not religious and im a great fun to be with. others fit perfectly)
2006-08-20 23:17:44 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very soul distroying, Don't go near one you'll only get f*cked over or hurt
2006-08-20 19:39:07 · answer #7 · answered by Mickenoss 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that sucks.
people who are full of themselves and only think of themselves.
ugh.
2006-08-20 19:26:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋