im a virgin, and my boyfriend wants to have sex. i've never really had anything "in" me, not even a tampon. i know its going to hurt, but what can he do so it reduces the pain, what can i do? what happens if i bleed, will he be totally disgusted?even if its not my fault...
2006-08-20 19:12:36 · 12 answers · asked by thats_hot_097 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
The best thing for you mentally and physically is if you are relaxed with him. If you are tense this will not help and is a sure sign that you are not ready to have sex with him. When you are totally relaxed with each other and ready you will know it. Take it slow and carefully and it will be ok.
2006-08-20 19:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are many things you can do to reduce the pain of "the first time." First of all, make sure you are giving it up to the right guy. I can't stress that enough! If you are hesitant, don't do it. If you are ready, great. Make sure you are relaxed and in the mood, he should be especially gentle and engage in the right amount of foreplay. If you guys don't know much about the subject, go to Barnes & Noble and look at some books together. Get yourself some KY gelly, the sensual massage oil that can also be used as a lubricant (check the label 2 make sure.) Just make sure the time is right for you and that you aren't feeling pressured. Take it slow, and when you are feeling aroused and ready (believe me you'll know) let nature take it's course. Make yourself a little kit with lube, cleansing wipes, CONDOMS, a candle, and whatever else you think you'll need to feel comfortable. About the bleeding, which should be minimal...if your boyfriend gets disgusted, that's proof he's too immature for sex, talk to him about that. Make sure he knows how you feel. And once again, if you don't feel ready, don't do it, you can only lose your virginity once. Don't allow yourself to be pressured into sex. Good luck.
2006-08-21 02:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do realize that you also have a choice not to have sex, right? I can't speak for your case, but there are a lot of girls who have sex, way before they're ready just because they think they have to. So if you're in that category, just take your time until you're ready.
Now, if you've decided to have sex, hopefully he'll be a gentleman and treat you well throughout. To reduce pain, he should really really take his time. The more lubricated you are, the easier things'll be. As for the blood, that'll depend on him and his experience. He may not even know that there could be blood!
Just be comfortable with the process. Have some towels nearby and take your time. Enjoy each other and just go with the flow.
Good luck!
2006-08-21 02:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by Yada Yada Yada 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi there! Doing "it" for the first time can be a nerve racking experience but in the heat of passion you act on natural impulses and the fear quickly subsides. If the guy knows it's your first time, he should do all he can to make you feel comfortable. I lost mine about two weeks ago and it was worth the wait. That feeling is both weird and wonderful and extremely intense. Enjoy!
2006-08-21 02:40:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he knows you're a virgin he should expect some kind of blood and if he cares about you he really shouldnt care. just make sure he knows and be careful where you do anything so not to make a mess. you really sound nervous about it and i wish i could tell you to hold off on the whole thing because your first time shouldnt make you all scared and nervous. you're first time should make you a lil scared but more excited to be sharing such an experience with someone you love.
yet if you still go through with it, i'd recommend lots of foreplay, lots of making out and getting comfortable with eachother, and if you still want to go through with it, try using a pillow under your butt. it helps to ease things in. just make sure he is gentle and slow and most of all, make sure he's wearing a condom! you really dont want to worry about getting pregnant or any std's for your first time. once again, good luck with whatever you choose
2006-08-21 02:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can start by relaxing, tell him to use a lubricant on you and to ease in slowly and work his way from there and not just to shove it in you, you may bleed a little but its not your fault and your bf better know this. you sound very apprehensive about this like you want to wait awhile? is this guy worth this and how long have you known him? he wont be the kind to get sex and leave will he? i just want to make sure this is all your decision and you arent being pressured into any of this
2006-08-21 02:20:41 · answer #6 · answered by oceanlady580 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Stay virgin and be proud of it. Save it to the one you are married with. Sex before marriage is a no, no.
2006-08-21 02:33:53 · answer #7 · answered by Rod 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I would be in your place ,I would stay virgin till I marry .And I feel proud of it. Giving honour to break hymen and loose virginity is a wonderful gift which a girl can give to her husband.
He will love you so much and trust you.
2006-08-21 02:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to be scared of whats going to happen. Imagine something crazy... and go for it.. you will enjoy so much, that you will forget the pain.. or, that pain itself is a bliss.
2006-08-21 02:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by crayons 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
this is a question 4 ur mother
2006-08-21 02:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by sandy k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋